Comments by Stan Macready

Everything except intercourse, 3 failed dates now. She keeps saying she has trust issues and that she doesn't want to get hurt. I like this girl a lot but it's starting to piss me off that she's banged other guys but she's making me wait.

Should I just keep going for it every time she comes over?

UPDATE:
4th date is over now and it was the same shit. She seems to really like me, but why tf won't she give it up already? Every time the escalation reaches the point right before sex and I grab the condom, she scrunches her face and says "Hmmm" as if she's not sure whether she wants to or not. It's not a definite "yes" so I put the condom away.

What do you do when the girl gives slight resistance but doesn't straight up say no? I think you're gonna say " take a step back and try again later" but that's what I've done every time, and it's always the same result.

I get the feeling she's gonna reverse rationalize "well I've seen him like 6 times and we haven't had sex so I guess I don't like him, bye"

Bumble tells you, it said “looks like _____ ended the chat”

2nd date happened on Friday night. Had a great time again but still couldn't close. I tried 2 steps fwd, 1 step back, tried turning her on with oral to the point where her mind shuts off (failed because I suck at oral) and logical reasoning as my last resort. She said her reason was that she had "trust issues" and that in the past a guy had banged her and then ghosted her, which she said really messed her up mentally. I tried to tell her that she can't live her life not trusting people, didn't work. She finished me with a hand job and said she wants to see me again but all I can think about is how she's banged other guys on first dates, but she's making me wait. That means she sees me as beta, which I know I am not.

1. What can I do? I'm stuck in this frame where she's making me wait for it, even though I'm projecting non-neediness, always keep my frame, and doing pretty much everything you say to do in your videos
2. She said I didn't even come close to making her cum orally, what do you recommend to improve my oral skills?
3. What specifically should I do for the 3rd date? I feel like if I just invite her over again she's gonna think "this guy wants one thing" or just get bored that we're doing the same thing again and stop seeing me

isn't that possibly needy though? it send the message that I'm pushing for an earlier meet up

I know preplanned topics would come off as scripted. But what are some of the default questions you like to ask? What do you do when there's that awkward pause and draw a blank?

Thank you for the inspiration, I'm on a one year dry spell that I believe will soon end. Generic Cialis has worked well for me when it comes to performance anxiety, I've heard it's better than the others.

No. She never replied to the “see you soon” text in the screenshots. We planned to meet at 6, she wasn’t saying anything so I called her at 7:30 to try to build comfort. It went to voice mail after 3 rings (meaning she declined the call). After that she un-matched me on tinder and probably blocked my number.

How would you have handled it differently?

the tinder conversation is here https://forums.playingfire.com/posts/ghosted-for-not-having-snapchat, after the latest message there I double texted and she replied warm saying "here's my number if you're still down for Wednesday"

my main question is how did I handle it the day of, was my re-engagement ok? was it ok to call at 7:30 when the plan was to meet at 6? Apparently not because she un-matched on tinder after that call. How exactly would you have re-engaged and handled the flake?