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This girl seemed super down on tinder, I didn’t even mention her coming straight over. I asked what video games because she mentioned that on her profile and I was trying to build some rapport. After she wasn’t responding the day of, I called her at 7:30 to try and build some comfort, went to voice mail after 3 rings which meant she declined the call. After this she un-matched me which means she’s probably trying to block me from reaching her. How did it go from her trying to see me a day early to blocking me so quickly?
Also this means I’ve lost all my good leads now and back to square zero in a 10 month dry spell, fighting hard to not sink into negativity. I'm nearing the end of my 20's with only 10 lays, only two of those were the type of girl I actually want and they both left me. I feel like I'm going to spend the rest of my life reflecting back on how I failed to get girls in my prime years. How can I combat this mindset?
likley its cold feet. That will happen from time to time. Why was this date setup with you going to her place? Plan A should always be her coming to your place. Also, i am not a big fan of the nerdy video game stuff. I will need to see the hinge screenshots to figure out exactly what went wrong. Its important to run high volume because of situations like this. If you have 4-5 girls that you are scheduling for the day then one dropping off like this is no big deal.
In terms of the mindset stuff. You gotta stop out of this mode of thinking. First off for a man generally the 30s-40s are considered prime. Its women who hit there prime in thier 20s typically. Secondly, there are people who have it way way way worse than you. I have coached guys who are virigns in their mid 30s or a lay count of one becuase they were married for 15 years and now have to start from scratch. If you follow the advice ive given and are diligent and hustle. You will get results.
the tinder conversation is here https://forums.playingfire.com/posts/ghosted-for-not-having-snapchat, after the latest message there I double texted and she replied warm saying "here's my number if you're still down for Wednesday"
my main question is how did I handle it the day of, was my re-engagement ok? was it ok to call at 7:30 when the plan was to meet at 6? Apparently not because she un-matched on tinder after that call. How exactly would you have re-engaged and handled the flake?
hang on? Did you talk to her on the phone? and did she ghost you after the phone call?
