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I took a girl to a bar for a 3rd date last night. On the way out some Jamaican guy started talking to us and she engaged heavily in conversation with him. She took her coat off, sat next to him and said "I'm gonna chill with you for a while". I didn't know how to handle it so I just played it non-reactive and non-needy, I took a seat at the table. About 3 times she told the guy "you're so cute, you're the cutest guy in here" to which I basically ignored it and would just have small talk with the guy. He kept talking non stop to the point where I eventually got up, went to my girl and said "c'mon, let's go". She complied while the guy kept talking and talking, I had to eventually just cut him off and say "have a good night man"
I pulled but failed to close. Did I take the right course of action? What would you have done?
yikes. I think the problem began way before the guy tho. Have you banged this girl at all yet?
Everything except intercourse, 3 failed dates now. She keeps saying she has trust issues and that she doesn't want to get hurt. I like this girl a lot but it's starting to piss me off that she's banged other guys but she's making me wait.
Should I just keep going for it every time she comes over?
UPDATE:
4th date is over now and it was the same shit. She seems to really like me, but why tf won't she give it up already? Every time the escalation reaches the point right before sex and I grab the condom, she scrunches her face and says "Hmmm" as if she's not sure whether she wants to or not. It's not a definite "yes" so I put the condom away.
What do you do when the girl gives slight resistance but doesn't straight up say no? I think you're gonna say " take a step back and try again later" but that's what I've done every time, and it's always the same result.
I get the feeling she's gonna reverse rationalize "well I've seen him like 6 times and we haven't had sex so I guess I don't like him, bye"
Honestly I think it was best that you ignored her when she was talking to the Jamaican guy, possibly should’ve cut that shit out right when she sat down. But to address your other concern, she probably see’s you as BF material which is why she might be making you wait for sex. What you gotta do is make sure you next date is at a sex location, don’t take her ass out. Once you get to the sec location proceed with calibrated escalating. If she doesn’t wanna fuck cut your losses and don’t see her again.
