Thanks Alex!
Thanks Alex!
It didn't even occur to me that she is dictating the frame, before you mentioned. Very good point. I should have just ignored the improv and sent her 'Name ;)' then probably next step would have been to invite her home?
You mean, if "... she aimlessly wondering around and bored", pulling direct to home is the better option? I was thinking insta-date is a good smaller, safer step, right before pulling?
My logistics is pretty bad, I live 1 hour away from the city. My plan is to do airbnb, when I come to a level that I am having sets that I have a chance to pull. That's why I was thinking that insta-dates are good way of developing skills, no?
No, she dind't respond yet.
Thanks for the stats. Great guidance to keep the direction. I had heard 10% a couple of times, though from the videos of very advance guys (John Anthony, Paul Janka). It is awesome to have stats for each step, so I can evaluate which area I should work on first. My number close is around 10%. Seems like I should concentrate on my approach.
I had hit my lowest 2013, then I found out about 'The Game'. Tried the ideas a few years. Though having considerable social anxiety, I spent most of the time on inner development. In the beginning even socially hooking was an issue. I was about to be burned out. You are absolutely right on that. At that time, I took the boot-camp. Now, I am at a point that I am thinking more her state them mine. I need to work on my outer game further. Potentially, I might do a refresher with an instructor, if not enough progress.
I can totally see pulling right after a quick insta-coffee-date. Also, I need to improv my logistics, it is not the best.
Appreciate all the comments.
Thanks Alex! Interesting point about direct and semi-direct. I can definitely see semi-direct might be more effective, though might not be the easiest to implement, as one might not have something to comment on on every occasion.
I agree that my approaches are not optimum, though improving. I started keeping record. Doing around 30 approaches on weekends(Fri-Sat-Sun). In Feb, I was averaging to one instant date per weekend. Three out of last four weekends I had two each week. Interestingly, if there is a good attraction, i can get the instant date, there is no progress for any of the other numbers. I agree with you, it is most likely because of the approach. Also, i have to note that, I haven't converted any of the instant dates. Though, other than 2 of them, none were very solid. I took a boot-camp a year and a half ago, was very helpful. (I am not counting the one with RSD, not much value there). Thanks for commenting on the expected response rate at an advanced level. It is great to have reference to aim for.
Good points. I was thinking, opening direct on street is unique enough. Initially mostly very receiptive. Though i cant leave th interaction in a high note
I meant the meetup text next day. I have been trying to figure out the timing. I wait a few days (not a good either) before the first text (sometimes I only text my name during the interaction, also looks like not a good idea). Just saw the youtube video on this, it was very helpful, thanks.
Thanks for sharing Alex, great post. Quick question: you texted her the next afternoon. Was it intentional? Is there any time window for the first text? Would you text her differently if you wouldn't have gone for the kiss?