Dead Dog
So I open this chick asking if the cute dog in the photo was hers. She replies "Yes :) She died 6 months ago. Miss her." Yikes. How do I lighten the vibe? Please help.
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So I open this chick asking if the cute dog in the photo was hers. She replies "Yes :) She died 6 months ago. Miss her." Yikes. How do I lighten the vibe? Please help.
I'm active in the forums when I feel like my game is a bit rusty and/or I need a challenge. Here are some dos and don'ts that hopefully help you based on what I've seen you all (and myself) do. But before that, standard disclaimer: I'm a moron who knows nothing. Take everything I say ever with scoops of salt and feel free to disagree. I'm posting this more as a reminder for myself before I forget. The opinions are purely my own and often there is no one right answer. This is just what one man (me) would do. What to do and not to do when a girl's texting style is triple/quad texting You are not required to reply to every single thread in the girl's messages and make a quad text reply yourself. You have the luxury of picking the interesting threads and only replying to those. Example from a thread from earlier today Her-Ahh the privelege Interesting, my ex was half Greek cypriot, is that similar or not really Spanish is cool I like sports and food and I have a lot of pets...that pretty much sums me up wbu? Me-Cypriot greek and mainland greek are the same, Macedonian not so much Sí, especialmente a impresionar una linda chica como tu Love to stay active through martial arts and climbing. Love cooking new cuisines and cute wine dates His reply is to each and every thing she mentions. Speaking spanish in reply to "Spanish is cool" is DLV not DHV. I'd have ignored that. The first line could have been much simpler, because it's just boring. I'd have said either "no they're not similar" or "I'm contractually obligated to say I'm nothing like your ex" if you want to be less boring. Even completely ignoring that question would have been fine in my opinion. The last line is pretty much the only mandatory one here. You do not have to mirror the girl. Especially her girly behavior. "She triple texts all the time, so I figured it'd be ok if I did it too". Are you also a girl then? No? Then don't do it. "She hearted/liked my tinder messages, so I felt like reciprocating". No, you don't have to. This might just be a pet peeve of mine, but there are plenty of ways to provide validation when the girl says something funny or worthy of applause. Almost all of them are through text (lol, cool, haha etc). Girls can do weird shit and get away with it. You can't. It's your job to have your own identity in how you text and hold to it. If you're swayed by her texting this easily, then she's got no reason to respect you. Do not insta text back and forth unless it's purely logistics Texting has the fewest amount of pitfalls when it comes to game because you can take your time to craft a good reply. Why would you surrender this massive advantage by insta texting the girl live? I mean, I know why. You're way too eager. But the question is rhetorical. Don't do it. I have a rule that I'm going to wait at least 5, if not 10 mins before I reply to a text. I come up with a better text than what I would have sent had I been insta texting at least 70% of the time in the 5 mins I give myself. One cringe text is all it takes to dry up that pussy. You can leave her message on read for a lot longer than 10 mins if you need time too btw. One trick to organically achieve this is by turning off notifications from your apps. That is free impulse control. You're welcome. Fastest way to improve game in my opinion If you can think of a situation where you'd be stuck, it's probably somewhere here already. Solving (or attempting to solve) other people's stuck convos is a great way to get free experience. It's like texting a girl, without the downsides. Another thing to do would be to look at the posts from all of Alex's comments and understand his thought process, then mimic that in your own interactions. I'm sure I'll think of more in due time and I may/may not update this post. But I hope this helps.
Context: I have "should be ok with me playing with your hair. I do it instinctively" for the non-negotiable in the prompt. We have plenty of matching interests/leanings on our profile. I have two cats. I don't want the reply to sound too eager or too boring, so please help! Some replies I can think of are: "Tempting offer. Are you cuddly?" "What's in it for me? " or something else? I should have this in the bag if I don't do something stupid, so please help! Edit: corrected context with actual prompt from my profile.
Context: Made plans for date on hinge couple of weeks ago. Then she vanished when I asked her Phone #. Then gave me her phone number out of the blue. I restarted the convo (posted here). I'm trying my best to keep things interesting. But not getting much help. I'm thinking of calling out her lack of enthusiasm with something like "I sure hope you're more talkative in person..." or something along those lines. Is that warranted here?
So I had a park date last week for an hour and a half where I didn't sexualize (embarrassing, yes). I texted her a funny reference from the date a few days later but didn't expect her to actually reply, but she did. Is it going to be weird if I start flirty/sexual banter after a platonic engagement? I was thinking of doing something like "Can I be honest" and start sexualizing a bit by referencing the first date. I'm looking to hear any other ideas of how you guys have recovered after a sub-par first date. Thanks as always for the help!
Continuation of https://forums.playingfire.com/posts/how-to-drive-this-forward, I have all screenshots here (including the previous post). I was hoping she'd ask what my weaknesses were, instead I get thrown a curve ball. Let me know if any of these sounds good: When you stop blushing, you can say things like "I like being outdoors, traveling, hiking etc. I also have a cute booty" and resume blushing ;) It's your turn to shine...if you like to travel, be outdoors, and have a taste in wine or have a cute booty ;) Or some variant or something else altogether? Please help, boys! this one is hot af haha
Convo so far is very basic. Not happy with how I've driven this. Should I now: Drive towards a soft close? "You sound like you could use a break. Do you like wine?" Sexualize? "Studies confirm that overworked people respond best to massages." Build more investment? "Ask her what she does for fun etc" Thanks for the help!
Plenty of flirty banter and I sort of left her on a high on Friday. Reengaged her tonight, and got this low investment response, she ignored my question. What should I do? We have a wine date setup for next Friday.
Would you guys agree to a first date if you know it's public only with no chance of pulling? Are there any tips to sexualize if it's just a public date, or do you only sexualize once she's in your home? I had a public-only date today and I think I friend zoned myself with my behavior.
Had a dinner date at my place set up for today a week ago. I could see the flake coming a mile away because it was hard to maintain interest through the gap. She didn't respond to the confirmation text last night and I hit her with the flakey type text. She hits me with this. How do I proceed? context: first date was virtual, she's very introverted + socially sort of awkward (but a solid 7), her being overwhelmed at work is not a lie. Thanks for the help in advance!