Sorry for the salacious headline.
I had pretty smooth interaction with a hot late thirties chick.
She’s of punk/goth background as I am, except I don’t dress the part anymore. We started chatting on Tuesday and set a date for Saturday(today). In the intervening days I sent her a meme or a joke a day without answering too many of her questions and trying to keep mystery.
Surely enough, did I mention she’s hot? She cancels the day of. Included is the short exchange we had today. Do you guys think I should’ve kept my availability flexible? I’m having second thoughts about offering days so far ahead as I don’t know whether I’ll keep her interest that long. Should I recalibrate and tell her tomorrow that I’m free on Monday or Tuesday? She walks dogs for a living so her schedule is pretty random. My job is remote so I’m pretty flexible too.
Here's a very un-pimp story of a girl that is your personal 10 and wont give you the time of the day.
Background:
Myself, Ukrainian, 38 at the time.
Her, Tajik, 30 at the time of meet.
One of the few girls I super-liked on Tinder that responded back.
Quick flirty chat and a meet a day or two later.
Mid-October 2020 (Date 1):
Met on a cool rainy day at a local pub. I live right down the street from it so great logistics.
She comes in and sits a distance away eventually moving closer to me (citing COVID concerns).
Half way through the conversation, divulges that she speaks Russian just like I do.
It's a cute moment and the rapport is very good.
As we leave the bar, without hesitation I start making out with her.
Hand in hand, we walk aimlessly and chat about anything.
She was surprised at my real age, as I didn't look that old according to her. And I had concealed that info on Tinder.
After a twenty minute walk we reach my place (which is a beautiful victorian house).
She comments on how cute the house is and I offer to show her around plus I had to take a leak.
She asks whether I bring all girls there like this and I tell her "only the ones I like".
When I leave the bathroom I realize she stepped out on the front porch as she didn't want to wait inside.
Insisted that she had to go home and I didn't object much.
Walked to her car and we had a passional make out, after which I got her number.
After Date: The day after she was chatty over text and was obviously looking forward to the next meet.
(Date 2) 4 days later on a hot Sunday:
We go to the local boardwalk area as the weather was surprisingly hot for October.
She was wearing a hot cropped top showing off her perfect body.
We walked around a bunch, talking about art (she's a fine arts major) and joking around.
Took a few cute artsy style pictures of sunset and she even had me take pics of her.
I was really hungry after the walk and took us to an expensive Italian restaurant (I'm an engineer and I like good food)
She didn't feel like doing anything else after the dinner and I took her home.
(Date 3) Less than a week later:
First sign of something awry. She agrees to come over to my place at 7pm on a Saturday.
7pm comes and goes, at 7:30 I follow up whether she got lost and I have to rescue the fair princess.
She apologizes, said she ate too much and took a nap at her aunt's. (Who lives nearby)
In half an hour she arrives and tells me right away she cant stay late for, reasons...
We watch Chucky, and throughout the movie I try to remove articles of clothing from her.
Unfortunately her leather skirt and tights prevented me from getting anywhere.
She asked me whether I was trying to turn her on, I said "No of course not" with a sleazy smile.
After couple more attempts she stops me and says that she would like to have sex with me but again "reasons".
Something about eating too much... bullshit, or cum or whatever she had earlier that day.
Shortly after she "has" to leave. She arrived at my place around 8 and was leaving at 9:15 without finishing a movie.
Week after this we stay in touch but dont meet.
She talks about inviting me to her Thanksgiving thing with her girlfriends as she wanted me to try her cooking.
Weekend before TG we were supposed to meet up but she completely ghosted me.
The Saturday before I texted at Noon, then 3:30pm for confirmation that I didn't get.
Tuesday before TG I sent a final text asking whether everything is okay as she just disappeared.
Her response was a lot of sorries and how she's been in a bad mood blah blah and wished me happy TG.
After that every month and a half I'd ping her to see whats up and eventually gave up in early 2021.
April 2022:
Russian chick I was dating disappears on me so I reach out to this Tajik girl again since we havent talked in over a year.
We have 3 or 4 "dates" over the next three months.
One time I invite her directly to my place so she can park and we can walk to our destination bar since I live on a restaurant street.
At first she agrees but then changed to meeting up directly at the restaurant. I invited her out under "taco tuesday" premise.
After the date I make out with her and she seems into it.
I live 4 blocks away and it starts raining, so I ask to give me a ride back home.
She refuses and pretty much runs away in a hurry after that. Weird.
June 2022:
We see an indie film fest and I take her to more lively part of town after.
We go to a jazz club and over dinner she asks whether I want to have children (To which I say yes, with the right person)
Jazz club is a success and a lot of fun. Afterwards she drags me into a hiphop night next door.
We dance real close, I touch her body all over the place and everyone was just staring at us.
I drive her back home as she had to be "up early" and there was no makeout this time.
August 2022:
Few days ago I invite her out to an alt-scene dance night and she comes back with this.
"Hey, I'm down. I don't think I could stay the end of the show but I really wanna go"
At this point I lost all hope of getting anywhere with her.
How would you guys have handled the situations?
I know logically I should've quit and erased her number many months ago but what wouldn't you do for your personal 10...
I haven't been wasting time in the meanwhile.
In 2021 I had record number of dates and got two relationships out of it.
Right now I'm seeing a few chicks on the regular basis but none of them are 10s, or even 8s.
Had a fun first date with a chick a week ago.
It was pretty sexually charged but logistics weren’t there to close the deal.
ReInitiated yesterday and she first asked about my weekend plans. I pitched meeting up on Saturday.
She agreed adding that she’ll be going to the beach early in the day. I added with a flirt that if she’s inviting me I’ll make sure put in extra pumps in the gym to look good for our date.
She told me it’s cool if I’d like to join.
However now I’m having second thoughts as the beach is 50 minutes away from either of our places and logistics for try closing the deal afterwards will be awful. Likely after the beach she’ll want to shower and we live in opposite directions from the beach.
So I’m thinking of bailing on the beach idea with an excuse and instead suggesting an evening meet in my area. What do you guys think?
Chatting to some chick on Bumble that has “something casual” in her profile. Started with some banter about her country and then pitched drinks. I’m not exactly sure how to recover here
In short, met at a dance night. Date 4 days later and back to my place. Banged all night, good rapport and she said it would be nice to do it again. This was Wednesday last week.
We texted through Thursday and Friday until she left on a trip to TX until Monday. Tuesday this week is me touching base with her.
In the pub forum I posted a redacted version of this and now I’m ready to tackle the full cringe of what I wrote.
Needless to say the girl didn’t respond after that.
I’ve been pouring over PWF videos and I’m wondering if a takeaway is appropriate here. Something like “if you’re anxious I’d understand” sort of thing.
Met this tattooed girl a week and a half ago and got her number.
Last Wednesday she came over to a bar near my place and I took her home after.
We screwed half the night and she left in the morning. We’re kinda part of the same scene so we already had some connection.
Before leaving she mentioned that we should do this again sometime.
We exchanged texts Thursday and Friday as she told me about her upcoming trip.
Last weekend she went away on a trip to the south and returned Monday.
This is my reinitiation text from yesterday and she’s been silent since. I’m having regrets of making it seem too much like a booty call after what seems like a cool off.
Should I just wait and reinitiate with a meme in a week?
What do you think?
