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So the convo was going pretty well but then to the last thing I wrote she took a bit longer to respond and then sent this when she was appearently drunk and now not sure where to go from here. Any advice is appreciated!
Pretty self explanatory, have a few things in mind but none that jump to my eyes. The topics I steered the conversation to are relevant to her profile btw
So nothing too complicated but would be good to know what to do here. So girl I matched with on tinder, moved it to IG, there seemed to be decent amount of attraction, soft closed and when it came to closing a date she had an objection basically saying she's really busy atm with projects, I respond with: "Sounds like you need some stress relief" "I'm busy too, though i'm sure we could both find a couple hours if we really wanted to". She leaves it on seen. 5 days later (now) I sent the classic "If you're nervous, I'd totally understand" She answers with "I'm nott nervous i'm not looking for a datee ahahaha that's whyy" I'm just like wtf, she had previously said 'ok romantic date sounds good ahahah' and seemed kinda into it, anyway how do you handle this kind of thing? Another quick question, a 10/10 girl I matched with on tinder who I opened with "Hey, can I be honest" and she just responds with "yeah" I then send "You're just my type ;)" and she answers "Lucky me then" like 24 hours later. How do you even reply to this? How do you get a girl like this to invest? Or is she just a time waster? Anyway thank'yall really appreciate all the help!
Sup fellas, So I matched with a girl, had a relatively short convo (see pictures below) and moved to instagram, on IG went for a close about a romantic date, she said she's down but that her schedule is a bit chaotic because of her work, I told her she could use some stress relief and asked how her how her weekends look like and that I'm free starting wednesday. She responds with: "I don't know maybe we could meet ill tell u on friday if we're still in touch" So my question is what do I respond to this, also how do I generally proceed with this? Should I keep messaging over the week or just message her again on friday? Also i'm relatively new to texting for tinder and such so if you could rate/give some tips on my text game while you're at i'd like that
So pretty self explanatory but she seems worried that I'm a fake, don't know if its just a shit test or not but other than giving my IG idk how I would verify that I'm real.. Not sure what to do here or if what I wrote works or not, but got me wondering what you should generally do in this situation where she is scared you might be a fake.
So pretty straightforward here but i'm a beginner at texting, have a few ideas but not sure how I should text here ideally. Just matched today and its the beginning of the interaction, any advice would be appreciated.
Hey guys Matched a while back with a really cute girl who opened me and we really hit it off, we had very similar interests, and within 2 days we had sent like 40 messages back and forth and it was sexually escalated, she was very invested, soft closed me in fact. Anyway she was busy for a bit but we had a plan for a date, I hit her up about 2 weeks later on Instagram this time, we start talking a bit, she is taking longer to respond but still responds positively, eventually I sent some pretty bad texts and she just leaves it on seen, I text something smaller a few days later which she does respond to but less, she then starts taking longer and longer to respond. Anyway the investment which was really high at one point just wasn't there anymore. After she hadn't responded to a message in like 4 days I sent a voice message saying: "Hey, I really liked talking to you, you seem like a really cool and awesome person don't get me wrong but it doesn't look like things are working out, like you've got other stuff going on, but i'd love to continue as friends or something like that. So anyway, take care." Didn't send it with any expectations of anything happening was planning on just deleting the DM after, just wanted to be the one to end it rather than her slowly not responding anymore. Anyway after about an hour she likes the voice message and sends a voice message herself saying: "Okay yeah I think you're right, its just that right now i'm really busy with uni and stuff, I still havn't finished, so yeah, but it was really nice knowing you, and if you wanna keep talking later in the summer i'm down so, bye." along with a text message "N0ice voice btw" I just responded with a voice msg back about 2 hours later: "Yup, gonna be busy for a while aswell, but we can see in the summer, who knows what happens, alright take care" she then likes the message and that's that. So anyway should have been really easy to get a meetup with this girl earlier in retrospect but I did fuck up a while back, and at this point I saw it was not gonna happen so I sent that as a kind of last message before I delete the DM and move on. However I'm wondering if the "if you wanna keep talking in summer i'm down" is just courtersy, like a nice way of saying goodbye or if its feasible to actually reopen her in like a month maybe indirectly from a story or something and make something out of it? What do you think?
So should be a relatively easy question for some of the more experienced fellas out there. So I've got plans to meet up with a girl who is quite invested, now she has been busy for the last 2 weeks and so we agreed to meet this week and she seems to still respond to me with good energy when I reopened. However I recently just found out that I have a lot of shit to take care of this week and possibly next week aswell as i'm going on a 4-5 day trip so meeting this week would be less enjoyable for me. I technically could see her this week although like I said I really prefer not to, but i'm not sure if not doing so would make her lose interest. I'm sure its happened a few times to you that you've had to put off a date for a week or two (keep in mind she had to aswell jsut before for 2 weeks), is this usually a problem for the girl or a cause for her to lose interest or does it not matter? In case it doesn't matter I guess finding a way to tell her it would be best if we met up in a week or two without it seeming like i'm flaking/ not planning to meet up would be optimal. So if anyone has any ideas for that aswell then I'd appreciate it.
Sup guys, So I'm looking for some advice on how to reopen a girl (i'll give context below). Now I know Alex has some fantastic videos on how to reopen girls, however whilst it does give great examples/insight on how to do it, i'm not sure when would be the best time to do so regarding this case. So a girl who was really quite invested into me and pretty down for a meetup, we had lots of reasons to meetup and eventually agreed to a date but she is busy all the way until the 6-7th of june when she starts being available but she said the date is a plan. Okay that's fine, told her to shoot me her number and she sends her instagram. Now she didn't respond to the last few messages on tinder that I had sent her (see picture below) although not sure if these messages really need a response. So anyway its been about a week since we last texted, and the 6-7th is coming up, when would be the ideal time to re open? I would obviously do it on instagram but not sure if I should do it now/this weekend or after the 7th and see when she's free. Also not entirely sure what the best way to reopen her is, do I try to build on a conversation again? I mean she was really into me and flirting but now we havn't talked for a while so don't know if I need to just go back to logistics or build up a conversation first. I'm sure I could just open randomly now and using the stuff Alex talks about in his videos but ultimately I'm here to learn what the optimal thing to do is here. Thanks appreciate the help/advice!
Hey guys, looking for some advice on a particular situation here and one I'm sure must happen every now and then, so I'm wondering what the best course of action is in this situation from some of the more experienced guys here. So context here is I have a non existent social life for the past 6 months since moving to a country where I don't speak the language and covid regulations has made it near impossible to meet new people. So about a week or two ago I decided to give tinder a go. Given that my bio is in english its a lot harder to get matches or then turn those into good conversations despite being a good looking guy. So I found this girl who was really attractive and who opened me and we really hit it off, she spoke fluent english and our convos were really fluid with lots of flirting and generally just vibing, she explicitly said she had wanted to make out with me, we both soft closed several times and talked for a few days. When it came to logistics of setting up the date she was down but expressed she was really busy atm due to uni finals, which is fine, she said she will be able to and would love to in a week or two and that its a plan. Asked her shoot me her number and she gave her instagram saying I should hit her up on there. So here's the thing, I then I see 2 of her stories on IG with her with another girl on the beach and the caption was "Taken 💜🌞" (She did mention before that she was bisexual). The song was one about 2 girls in a relationship so I assume that's what they just became, this other girl is a friend of hers for years by the looks of it from her posts. I understand these things happen and it is out of my control and not expecting much is the best way to go about it, but in my situation I am far more invested than I otherwise would be because she is basically the only one i'm talking to due to my circumstances. So it happened really fast given she was really into me talking to me saying it was a plan and 3 days later we're texting less and I see this story, now we did have a plan for a date which she would be available for starting next week, is it worth still opening her in that time? The perception she has of me is someone who wouldn't give a fuck and who has tons of other options and that is how I've been in the past so its not hard to act that way through text or irl but atm its not the case. So I guess the situation which I'm guessing happens sometimes is that things were going pretty flawlessly, couldn't ask for better, but she appears to have entered into a relationship just now. So in this scenario is it worth still pursuing? Do I still open her for when we had planned the romantic date? And I guess IF so then how would I go about doing so in a non needy way? Would love some advice from anyone somewhat experienced!