This is a 2nd girl that objects to showing up to my place. This is a number close from few weeks ago at running track by the beach, was out of town for a week. In my mind this one is a goner. The number close was short interaction, she was taking selfies and i commented on it.
Any comments welcome, in my mind i fucked up already at number close, not enough teasing / joking or rapport building.
Not trying to recover, just learn what i should do differently with next ones.
Me: Hello troublemaker
Girl: Hello, why troublemaker? :D
Me: It's your appearance, perfect blend of cute and sexy
Girl: Oh, thank you for the compliment
Me: So tell me something about yourself - favourite drink? tattoos? prison time?
Girl: Coffe is good
No tattoos, for sure no tattoos :D
Haven't been in jail, passed school with "golden medal" (great marks)
Me: I could've used such a desk mate in school :D
And how about wine?
Girl: Yes i do drink sometimes
Me: Great, come join me for a glass.
Girl: Troublemaker has work in the morning
But we can drink wine somewhere tomorrow
Me: What time you get off?
Girl: around 16
Me: Lets do this at 20, send me your number - i'll give you a call tomorrow
Girl: can't we do it earlier? :)
Me: from 18 onwards is ok
Girl: Ok, where do you plan to drink this wine?
Me: On my romantic patio.
Girl: Who or what are you looking for in Tinder?
Me: Good chemistry first and foremost, haven't set any arbitary limitations
and you?
Girl: Still i get the feeling you have only certain things in mind
So i guess her concern is i just want to pump and dump since im pushing the meeting to take place in my appartment.
What is the correct path forward here? In my mind i have some options but probably should just clarify and then reassure i don't want to pump and dump but just to get to know her.
A) Ask her to clarify what thoughts she thinks i have and then address the concern (You want just sex -> Why would you assume that? etc)
B) "You got me, i want kinky sex and cuddles" - high risk and probably wont work as the interaction hasn't been sexual enough and my bio isn't sexual.
C) "Yes, i'm determined to get to know you better - no other expectations"
D) Call her out on not answering what she is looking for.
Any feedback on pictures welcome - which to forget, which are ok. If that's of any help then i do investing for a living and will try to give "Exciting professional" vibe. Haven't finalized profile/bio yet.
