I am 8/10 dude. Hitting the gym to reach 9.
I specifically selected a very convenient downtown are in a metropolitan city and live alone
I have an optimized profile (Still have a long list of things to improve after getting feedback from some girls).
I use Tinder, Bumble, Okcupid
I am in contact with more 6-7s than I know what to do with. I'm even seeing some of them
I am also in contact and seeing some 8s.
No 9s, 10s yet. We do match occasionally, but they lose interest and stop responding pretty quickly
My problems are:
Get rid of old girls in a nice way, as they keep wanting to meet up
Try to replace them and upgrade to better girls, either compatibility or score
Too much time spent with girls, and can't work or hit the gym as often as I need to
Thanks to Alex and this community for getting me to this stage.
So what does the experienced players do at this stage? What is the next level?
I do the perfect chat game, get her to drinks, we talk about a lot of common interests.
We talk about bdsm, sub/dom, fantasies. She is a bratty sub who wants to be tied up but doesn't like pain. She's inexperienced and wants to try shit. She asks some extreme stuff I did, and I explain in detailed way.
She mentions that she's into rapeplay.
We get out of the bar, go somewhere dark and make out and grope each other for a while. I felt like I could go for more right then and there, but decided to take her home instead.
She says, she doesn't go home in first dates, I responded by saying today you're going to have a lot of first experiences.
Anyways she asks me to walk her home, I'm like ok, we're close, she's in my arms. She mentions rapeplay again on the way.
I'm thinking, "Does this girl wants to get force dragged back to my place or what?". Because I have met a girl who is into rapeplay who literally told me that before, but wanted me to figure out that she wanted to be dragged. I decide that is a bad idea, I do not wish to spend the night in jail if I misread the situation.
Anyways it's going fine, we're chatting, she mentions her ex relationship of few years, I mention my ex marriage and I explain a bit more detail than I should've.
I feel a bit awkwardness and then she says, "You know what, you don't have to take me all the way, I can walk by myself after this"
I'm like, "I came half the way, might as well complete it"
She insists and I ask "what's up did my marriage mentioning did something?", she says yes, kind of.
And adds, "I'm not sure what I'm looking for so, you know I should just get going".
She says goodbye in a manner that meant good luck in life and future.
I'm curious if you guys had an experience like this. I took a for sure eventual victory and messed it up.
I sent her a 2 pretty good follow up texts at the end of the night and day4. She hasn't blocked or unmatched me either.
On day 13 I sent her the text in the image and get a response.
So I need 2 things from you guys,
What parts did I mess up, how could I not mess those up in the future?
Is there any way to leverage and save this one?
I was thinking of sending a picture of a girl I tied up to bed and spanked her ass into redness and write "This could've been you.."
Go for it or skip?
I'm 30yo, a really hot 18yo matches with me in Bumble.
I see she has "Don't know yet" marked and has a picture where she is smoking.
From my experience this usually means the girl is looking for a hookup, possibly tonight.
I have premium and swipe right on her immediately. She responds right back.
Girl: Hey, how are you doing?
Me: Doing great, how about you?
Girl: Unmatch
Any theories on what I could've done better?
I saw a good opening and entered from the kinky frame. However girl resisted and mentioned how she is a feminist and that crap. Then said she isn't into kinky stuff.
Previously I had a similar girl who later turned out to be a secret kinkster.
How to approach this situation? What is the response to "I don't like kink"
Ok this community is full of how to close the deal.
But at some point we're messaging with just too many girls, there are just too many girls to meet up.
We have to cut off some of them, what is the proper way of getting rid of them without being a complete douche?
Is there a guide or video on this topic?
Thanks
I'm a nomad, I travel to different places for both work and fun.
I'm able to pass most concerns but the main concern girls have, which I can't find a good answer to is:
"What if we meet up then have so much fun and click. And then you leave, and I'm left broken hearted"
I think the girls who say this fall into secretly DTF category.
How do I change this frame around? Should I even try? Is there any Lay Report or Video on this topic?
Thanks!
Because of corona curfew and our jobs, there is only 1 hour period where we can actually see each other over at my place. And this is giving her an excuse to back out and try again after curfew is removed.
The logical solution would be to invite her to to sleep over so we can have a proper length date. How can I do that in the smoothest way?
