Good playbook! I want to do the best I can so I will go over this again.
Good playbook! I want to do the best I can so I will go over this again.
That is true. Probably a good sign if she's talking even if it's a shit test. What would you say about having co-workers with me? I have a couple of good buddies at work. I feel like having peer pressure to do it would help. On my own, I'm so much more likely to chicken out. We could make like we're going for a walk to the convenience store and ask her if she wants to come. Or maybe something else?
That's really good stuff! Do girls ever ask where you're going? If you're honest--say, going home to parents--it could make you sound like a loser. If you lie and say going out with friends, they might request to come out with you. Before you ask, yes, I do have a few friends--not a lot.
Me - "Hey i have to get back it was fun talking to you, what's your number so we can do it again"
Her - "Oh, where are you going back to? Your mom's basement? You're some random guy. Why should I give you my number?"
Would I highlight the work thing in that we work like one building over from each other?
Thanks, man. Sometimes you gotta rip the Band-Aid off, I guess haha. I will update if and when I do it.
Yeah, and I guess I should fix up my attire a bit. I usually go to work super casual. Any tips on conversation - talk about her work schedule? I'm guessing I'll have a short 5 minute window. Have to test the waters and see if I'm her type/if she's single. And all of this is hinging on passing by at the right time before she has to return to work. I have seen her by chance generally about once a month, maybe twice.
Ok, so let's say she's all about it. My thought is to get her number, get a better sense of her schedule, and then try to set up plans based on that.
If she is sort of lukewarm, what would be a way to win her over?
I was definitely putting effort into Jacynda, which I hope will pay off later on. I'm not sure what you mean by "when you are the point of origin." I take that as I am expressing interest and spending time on her, but she pulls away and has other commitments. It seemed like I was a backup dinner plan for her, unfortunately. I could have been more outgoing or flirtatious, but I felt I wasn't getting enough back from her.
When she told me she was getting dinner with someone else, I said, "Oh damn, really? You're not coming with us?" Is there a better reply I should use in the future?
Yes, one of things that helped me was I got phone numbers quickly as the event was just starting, so I had that running in the background while I talked to other girls. My mistake was failing to close higher probability targets. I left them unattended while someone was chattering too long with me, and another guy sat down next to her. Another situation - shorter girl recognized me on the dance floor and approached in a friendly way. I hugged her, danced briefly but left the perimeter open and another guy got all up in that and soon left with her.
More successful example with the same girl - a guy grabbed her ass and I followed up immediately and did the same in a confident manner. She then sat down next to me, but I neglected to sexualize any further.
It was just an opener to throw out there so we'll see!
I sent your second text 4.5 hours ago. No response yet - I will keep you posted
Yeah, I'm def not a Chad. I don't want to get friendzoned, but getting ghosted sucks. Besides massage, could you give examples of plausibly deniable texts? I normally think of sarcasm as plausibly deniable. Sarcasm is a common, and disarming, way to handle many objections that center around sex and dating.
"I'm a shy virgin" downside - doesn't work if you are a virgin/inexperienced
"Don't worry I'm gay" - is this a good one?
Hmm, massages might be a good approach! Would it be helpful to put that in the bio, or maybe have a photo of you massaging a girl? Both?