Comments by Eric Arnold

I'll add some specific questions: if another girl you're trying to close says she's free only a certain day, and Nati later asks you if you can hang out that day, do you tell Nati you're busy, or cancel on the other girl? Do you tell Nati the situation? I cancel on the other girl because my gf would be very upset if she found out I prioritized someone else.

Do you ever sleep with another girl and then see Nati the same day? Does she know you've been with another girl? I've done it, and when my girl asks if I've been with someone I tell the truth. And she haaaates it.

If she deleted tinder, could be she started dating someone or something else happened to take her off the market.

Wondering, what's Boro?

She wants a sugar daddy. She probably won't sleep with a guy who won't pay

I assume you're talking about weeding out hookers? Ask what they do for a living. If they don't have a job, are studying cosmetology, or anything like that, that's a huge flag.

I wouldn't say I have a "method." When a girl likes you and you make it not a big deal, it's usually easy to get a yes. Have her like you, give off a vibe that you don't take things too seriously so she doesn't feel like if she comes to your place you'll pressure her into sex, bring it up smoothly, and address any objections.

In this case I met her for coffee, and after like 15 mins suggested we take a walk, and took her towards my place. Based on the vibe, and based on our texting and the last date, I was pretty confident she was just waiting for it. When we turned the corner off the main street I paused for a sec to get her buy in, and it was easy.

Ended up banging her tonight. Probably I just got lucky and there isn't some valuable lesson to be learned.

Back when she first shut me down I responded that I agree that things felt like they had gotten heavy all of a sudden and I'm not sure if she felt the same. Then I let it sit for 1.5 weeks, then she responded when I reached back out and it wasn't too hard to get to flirting and scheduling.

As for her perspective, today I asked her more questions. She said it wasn't that she felt a high and then a big drop after the date, but that I had previously said things that lowered her trust in me. I couldn't get out of her what they were, and didn't get a chance to dig into what changed her mind. Maybe in the future I'll have more detail.

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Thanks for the response.

Ah, shit. How do I know which girls I should try my best to close vs which girls I should avoid hitting the point of no return with?

Got it. For future girls: do you usually avoid going too far if you think the girl won't be ready to go all the way? For me it's often hard to predict how far I'll be able to get with persistence.

Yup, makes total sense! Have you ever come back from this, or is it futile to try?