Good response to “Ah, I was waiting for you to message me”?
What’s a good response to this?
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What’s a good response to this?
I've been texting back and forth with this girl for the past 2 months. Already been on one date, went well, and she even made plans of where she wanted to go on our next date. However, our schedules haven't coincided since then because of our school schedules during the week (I met her when we were both on vacation). For example, my only day off is Sundays, and for her, Sundays are days she spends with her family (roadtrips, hikes, etc.). I know she's not lying because she posts IG stories about that every Sunday, so we haven't been able to set up a second date because of that. What's my next step? I can't do a call out because she hasn't flaked. So is this a matter of "too bad the schedules don't line up, move on" or is there something else I can do? P.S. Changing my day off isn't an option because my busy hours are due to med school classes and rotations, and those are concrete. (Yes, I even have classes Saturday evenings).
For the past 2 months I have been trying to set up a date with this girl. She would be open to the soft close, but whenever I’d go for the hard close she’d never reply. I would typically use responses like the “if you’re too nervous I’d understand” or “I didn’t take you for the shy type”. She would normally end up up responding with “I’m sorry, I hadn’t seen the message” or just randomly ignore it and start off with a good morning. Until finally she told me that ”it’s going to have to wait until a little bit later because I can’t during this time”. This could mean many things so I’m not worried about what they are. So what would be a good reply to what she said? I’m thinking something along the lines of “No worries, I’ll see you when this is all over” or “No worries, I’ll keep the wine safe”, but I’m not sure if those are good ones.
I'll be translating since everything is in spanish. I had some good banter back and forth with this girl and it got to the point of: Me: Hey girl, happy saturday (sent in the morning) Girl: Thank you! How are you? (sent around midday) Me: Sent her a picture of what I was cooking for lunch (I also add "You know how to cook also right?") Girl: OMG that looks delicious. And of course! Me: If I made dinner, what would you contribute? This is where she didn't reply back. So I wait 3 days and send her "If you're too nervous, I'd understand" She replies with: Why do you say that? How should I respond to that without sounding too logical? Or, is that the approach I should be taking to begin with?
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I had been messaging with this girl on IG for about a month on and off; good exchanges back and forth. Just never seem to get a date since she was always busy whenever I'd be free. Keep in mind that during that time I'd also be opening up other IG girls. Everything is in spanish so I'll just translate what she said last since it's the most important. Out of the blue she sends me this message: "How does it feel to be using the same opening line on all my friends?" I had no idea she was friends with some of the girls I had opened up, so this caught me by surprise. I'm thinking of responding with "What's wrong with trying to get to know someone and see if it works out or not?" But I'm not sure if that's the right thing to say...should I say something else?
This has been something that’s been on my mind for a while, and if someone has been going through with this as well, hopefully it can help. About 11 years ago (19 years old) I used to be the complete opposite of who I am today. I was known as an introvert, had zero confidence, over thinker, and didn’t have the courage to talk to women. Fast forward to when I turned 22, life changed, made a few friends who were PUAs, and they showed me the ropes. This was perhaps one of the biggest struggles I had ever had to deal with since the only solution was to break out of my comfort zone and start talking...basically a 180 degree change. One of my biggest psychological “walls” back then was that I let emotions get the best of me, and just the fact of suppressing them was a challenge in itself. To this day I still get a few short bursts of emotional sadness, rage, or joy, when it comes to the interaction with women, but I have better control of them. During those years of transforming myself (22-25), I could only put up the front of being this confident, 0 fucks given type of guy for about 1 date and half, sure I’d smash and everything, but afterwards I was in uncharted territory and didn’t know how to maintain that, and as a result, I would end up losing the interest of the girl. In addition, there were a few times (wish I could go back in time with the knowledge I know now) where I would pick up a 10 at a club with my dancing abilities that I also acquired, but since I was in shock that they would respond so well to that, I would have a complete nervous breakdown when it came to engaging in an actual conversation. And just like before, I would lose the interest of the girl. The day after I would then have to start from scratch with my training. The biggest turning point in my transformation was when I would go to the clubs with NO specific goal in mind, and more of a mentality of “whatever happens happens”. Here I would go up to attractive and non attractive girls and just engage in conversation without the end result of wanting to smash. This gave me insight on how women thought, and how easy it was to be less “gamey” in person and have more of a natural attraction based on things we have in common. Keep in mind that during this time I was still living in California and my way of texting was the opposite of in-person (witty, creative and gamey). However, the women responded well to that. I then moved to Costa Rica to pursue my career in medicine, and this is where life took another huge turn. The culture here is simple and to the point. It came as a shock to me biggest it almost seemed as if the intelligence level of these women was dialed down. With my California approach mentality, I made so many mistakes when it came to picking up at bars and dance clubs. As such, I had to evolve once again. It took me about 2 years of trial and error to finally understand how things worked; this includes the text game as well. Fast forward to present day (30 years old). I consider myself to be in the range of intermediate to semi-advanced level with the dating game. Finding out about Alex’s business was completely random (actually don’t remember if it was through youtube or a google search haha) but his state of mind appealed to me since it’s basically how I aim to think some day, and how things are during this moment...simple, not complicated, and to the point. Needless to say I still have some flaws I need to work on, and the career hasn’t made it anymore easier. For example, nowadays, all my focus is towards classes and studies which take up 80% of the week. The remaining 20% I split up into daily portions. This interferes with talking to women since if a girl can’t meet on an afternoon that I’m free, I’m not going to sit around and wait for the meetup to happen. Instead I pick up another girl (instagram, tinder, etc.), and see if her schedule coincides with mine. The flaw in this is that at times I end up talking to 10 girls at once, and when I get completely overwhelmed with studying, I have to ignore everything around me for a few days. This results in perhaps a girl losing interest, or her getting fed up that I’m always so busy. So it becomes a never ending cycle of finding out what works best for my schedule. During this cycle is where I get confronted with scenarios that I’ve never dealt with (every woman having different personalities), and what works with one, may not work with the other. The second flaw I have is my old self creeping up every now and then, specifically the over thinking aspect. I think this is actually inevitable because it's who I used to be for almost 20 years. The only solution I've had for this is just to constantly keep in mind the "0 fucks given" attitude. The third flaw I have is WANTING to have the girls I mentioned in the first flaw, especially if I’m conversing with 9s or 10s. The reason I believe this happens is once you learn the ability to pick up, you feel invincible and you feel like you can get everything and anything you want the moment you want it. Understanding the idea that this can’t always happen has been the hardest to deal with. And whenever these moments arise, I have to set time apart to meditate, go out for a walk, or just continue studying. It’s definitely a work in progress, and I will never consider this training to be complete because just like life, anything can change at any time. Hopefully this serves as something helpful for anyone who might be just starting, or has been in the game for quite some time...just to let you know that you’re not alone with any struggles you may have.
Not sure if this has happened to anyone. I tried looking for similar examples for ideas, but so far none. How would I go about reviving an old conversation (5 years old)? The reason why the conversation died to begin with was because I had told the girl exactly how many women I’ve been with (she asked and back then I was honest with that answer). She never talked to me since. I know many of you will say to forget it and move on, but I like a challenge.
There's been something strange happening lately. Either the girls I'm messaging are getting their memories wiped, or some magic spell has been casted on me. These examples I'm about to explain are from Costa Rica. There have been instances where things are going well in the conversation (good investment on the girl's behalf), then I go for schedule or meet up text by saying "We should split a bottle of wine on my romantic balcony" or after she gives me her schedule I say "how does Sunday work for you?". Then afterwards I get no reply. About 2-3 days later I message them with "If you're too nervous I'd understand" or "Thinking very hard I see", and they reply with "?" or "What do you mean?" or "Huh?" or "Thinking about what?". These responses make me think that they're either playing dumb, or they legit got their mind erased. Granted, another reason can also be that they live extremely busy lives, so they may forget the whole topic at hand since the beginning, but either way, the question I asked is the second thing that comes up (whatsapp), so they don't need to scroll through the whole conversation to see what I'm referring to. Is the correct way to handle this situation by replying with the same level of confusion, such as "Oh?" or "Hmm?", or should I do something else?
When asking “Do you like wine?” and she responds with “I don’t drink at all”, what’s a good response to this without sounding needy?