LR - Bootylicious One Night Stand & “Boyfriend Energy”
Nothing too special or crazy here. But some valuable takeaways from meeting with this girl. Over Facebook Dating she was agreeing about meeting up but then started getting indecisive. It felt like when I was trying to get into logistics, the probability of us meeting on the given day was dropping because now she was starting to inquire for more information. Eventually she actually offered the idea of meeting in public, & since she mentioned “near my place” the DTF lights were blinking and I was hoping I’d get her on FaceTime to get her over instead. She didn’t even want to FaceTime. Time was of the expense so I just agreed to meeting at a bar & still assumed the sale. Donny I hate your ass because somehow these women just fall under your stupid spell. Gonna blame it on SMV discrepancies cause lord knows women love my voice on voicenotes. Going in to this date, I was a bit skeptical. This girl’s bio was very heavy on the “sugar baby” side and I couldn’t tell whether she was being serious or using it to screen out dudes. In person, she was quite cute. Very sarcastic & very emotionally unavailable. She got comfortable with my touch relatively quick & sort of fell into it, but this is where I think some mistakes were made. I think maybe I was giving off “boyfriend energy” I think. Pulling her in, wrapping my arms around her as we were having drinks. She was falling into it, but I don’t think this was.. yep, “DOMINANT”. Lol. She avoided direct eye contact with me the entire time. She was a baker, chef in the restaurant industry. What’s interesting is she described herself as a brat, but didn’t behave as such at all. She wasn’t constantly testing or acting in a bratty way in my opinion. She was pretty sweet but just seemed like she was overworked and perhaps projected that onto other people. She was putting that first drink down FAST. When she finished, I fucked up by offering to go back to mine for a drink when it was clear she wasn’t ready yet. Should only make firm statements when it comes to the pull but thankfully she didn’t blatantly say no but rather said she wanted to get another drink. At one point she swears & says she’s not an alcoholic. I said “Isn’t that what every alcoholic says?” Lol. Jokingly. She starts to inquire about what I do for work. Give her the run down. At one point I made a lighthearted future projection about her being my partner at a “intro to lap dance” class for a demonstration & she didn’t bite on it. This was the first sign of not being fully bought in & that she wasn’t looking for anything beyond tonight with me. Either she wasn’t fully attracted & was just there enjoying the drink and wasn’t gonna go no where or she just was there for what it would eventually turn out to be.. a one night stand. Eventually I could tell the threshold for how long of us being at the bar was reaching it’s limit & I say I gotta use the restroom. One thing I don’t like is I feel I have to somewhat not let dates drag out & let women want to leave. & This is why I sort of try to move things forward fast. Pay for the drinks, then tell her let’s get out of here. Was sort of worried. Wasn’t sure if she was going to want to head to her car and leave because she wasn’t feeling it or if she was going to follow my lead to my place. Thankfully, she did. But this was weak pulling on my part. We get back to my place & she kind of is blown away by the niceness of the apartment. Goes out on to the balcony as I pour us drinks. She’s overlooking the view & I stand behind her & wrap my arms around here. This wasn’t good. “Boyfriend energy” in my opinion for a girl who doesn’t respond to that or in the headspace for but j could be wrong. Throughout the duration of the date, she didn’t give me any IOIs whatsoever now I look back. I was just constantly assuming the attraction. Even when I told her about myself, she didn’t seem to care too much. Eventually she says it’s hot so I say we can go inside & lead her to the bedroom. I ask her to show me some of her dance moves, she declines out of embarrassment. She goes to my restroom & sees my cop outfit, gave her a good laugh. Eventually she gets on my bed & gave me the perfect opening. She wasn’t being resistant to the proximity & thus I started escalating. No resistance surprisingly. But, she was wearing one of those retarded onesies and that was mad annoying. Clothes come off, I start going down on her. Then she rolls over and her ass was in my face. Was quite amazing actually, & she legit started shaking it all over me. Tasted fucking amazing. I was so hard & then I slipped my sweats off and proceeded to fuck her. Wound up finishing quick, and tried to keep going but then lost my boner from having finished already. I think I ate her out and fingered her a bit more & then layed down next to her. She then asked if I finished, told her I did a long time ago. She then asked why I didn’t tell her. I told her that I finished earlier then expected & don’t like that. & Care about the girls pleasure as well. She said she wanted to know because she cares about it too. I then tried talking to her more about what she likes. That conversation was brief. This community preaches drawing data from what girls are into and their presences but 85% of them don’t even know until you verbalize it for them. Something came up about her sitting on my face and she did so. Then I told her to suck me off and I wasn’t as hard. Tried getting on top of me and had the same issue. Then bent her over & was able to get hard again after eating her ass out. Shit was delicious man. Then banged again & finished too soon. She then said she had to use the restroom & was going to get dressed because she doesn’t like being in the nude. I should’ve taken the lead more but didn’t want to seem “needy” I sort of just took it for what it was & was like “Well, I guess she wants to leave so I’ll just let her” Walk her to her car & mentioned something about how I had a good time & wouldn’t mind seeing her again. She told me she had fun too, but that she’s not looking for anything. That she’s just meeting new people, and is enjoying the free drinks and dinners. & That she doesn’t normally do what she did with me but knew what was going to happen coming in. Then made a joke about the professional booty analysis and massage that didn’t happen. I blamed it on her jokingly and said that it was her fault I was so turned on and couldn’t help myself. She then said how she doesn’t know if she’ll ever see me again because she is quite busy and almost had to cancel tonight with running two jobs. Another bad sign. So all in all, this was a one night stand. Told her to text me once she got home, nothing. Texted her the next day I had fun, nothing. Takeaways If you want to ensure a girl you’re meeting with is not going to be a one night stand, screen for that. I did not do that here. Sometimes you can not screen and go along with whatever the girl’s vibe is if she is receptive to your sexualizing over text. If the night between you & the girl is rooted in sex or connection, whichever is the more prominent one, has to be on it’s a game. Sometimes, you can take a girl at face value. She told me she’s just looking to meet new people. This is where the community is gonna say “No, it was your sex game, you didn’t do this or that” Unless their was a massive SMV discrepency (The girl sees me above her SMV) & sex was phenomenal, it is what it is. Had I had both, the chances of it not being just a one night stand would’ve MAYBE been different. She’s not available for anything beyond the night you two spend. If you can pick up that the girl is not being emotionally available at all, you have to withdraw yours too. I say in the sense that I shouldn’t have made those physical escalation “boyfriend like gestures” It probably signaled that it was the dynamic I was interested in, which perhaps made her more closed off when in reality I just wanted to get the girl comfortable with my touch. Girls that are already emotionally reserved or distant, even if she already liked you, theirs an inner conflict in her that makes it harder to see people. As easy as it is to over analyze and say we fucked up, there is sometimes really nothing we can do. Credit to Brett