Comments by Life Skills

Absolutely bro, I'll send you a message in a day or two with titles of my favorite 10 or so Julien vids. Thanks again!

Bro just want to say how much I appreciate your contribution here and responding to my post. It's honestly frustrating how much I contribute to other guys' posts with, at minimum, a valuable and legit perspective - and then maybe once outta 15-20 times I contribute, I ask for feedback myself and a few guys do occasionally contribute like Hey Trouble, Chris, Chaz, Guy - but it's mostly crickets and so I'm not sure how valuable it is for me to be spending time here, contributing to mostly newbies who add zero value, just take take take and then ask for more.

Add to that I honestly get better results just following Juliens game stuff, and these lines and takeaways I think are doing more harm than good. Girls know when you're using gimmicky lines, even if/when they haven't specifically heard them before. I'm really questioning the value proposition here. With all due respect to Alex who provides this totally free forum and even contributes free advice occasionally.

Responding to your edit, last part specifically:

There is zero doubt in my mind that she finds me more attractive than whoever she's fucking but won't yet commit to her. That's clear with her "full disclosure" message. So I think that my presence, kinda showing up in her life is forcing the issue for her, and really "him" whoever he is. I could just back tf off which is probably the right move, and maybe she will come chase, but I don't know if that's the power move here. Thoughts?

Good point, I was thinking "ah it's a Monday night, I just got rescheduled, so what the hell" but didn't consider the negative compliance likelihood. I did a you feeling spontaneous tonight 2 weeks ago with a bumble match, she was down, we met for "a quick drink" (my suggestion) which became closing down the bar and sex all night at her place. So, hmm, something to consider but 🤷

I agree with Ruben that it's not a good sign.

I also think you phrased the schedule question wrong. Too passive.

I would reengage fresh and offer value, then move towards suggesting a cool venue or event coming up that likewise is a value add when you go for the close - provided, of course, that she reengages with you

I have a different perspective. Don't think too hard now, sent 2-7 days after no response, has worked once for me out of maybe 20 uses. And that person was a time waster who I never met IRL.

I don't think these takeaways are that good, sorry. They're more obvious than perhaps is thought, around here. Or maybe it works with 22 year old chicks, but not 38 year old chicks. But they almost never work for me.

What does work for me is reengaging fresh, disregarding the previous couple texts, and adding/offering value. That has worked multiple times recently with chicks I have seen or ended up seeing IRL.

Not trying to create division, I just genuinely disagree and those are my real time results.

"Well you know what they say about the fox guarding the proverbial bunny house. Lol. Ya I like an assertive, slightly older woman who knows what she wants, it's hot"

100% agree with all of this, authenticity is the baseline for anything & everything. Without it you are doomed

It truly depends on the quality of the connection during date 1. If I connect with someone in kinda a deep way where we've had a lot of things in common or can empathize with one another, I am probably not going to be as assertive with suggesting sex immediately and just about every time this is the situation, there is interest in future dates.

I had apparently my first "point of no return" rejection last month with a chick who was objectively a few SMV points below me. We had a great time but I'm pretty sure she got fuckboy vibes and couldn't handle it.

I've recently had 2 first date bangs, actually the last two Tuesdays, where I showed up with great open-ended intentions to simply have a good time and see if we clicked, and in one case the woman escalated and suggested sex. Both of these women were a bit intense, listed complaints about the "men on here" and were very eager to meet. Both of them are kinda messy. I honestly don't care if I see either one again.

The women that I've had dates with that didn't lead to sex, but they were cooler and more chill, maybe a better "soul connection" potential, I honestly would rather go on another date with them that DOESN'T lead to sex, vs one of these messy eager chicks who are still good looking, and would definitely end in sex (again), but I just don't like them as much.

I would absolutely mention a specific bar to meet for Friday night and mention 1 or 2 cool things about it. Then ask if that she would like to meet there, then no expectations on my end, then I'd like to meet you and see if we click.