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So, Alex made a video a while back broaching this subject. He outlined the “what” of backward rationalization but there isn’t much specific content on how to actually manage it when it happens. So pretty straight-forward topic here. What is a good POA for managing and dealing with backward rationalization in order to salvage a situation and “get the date”?
Long-story short - I called a girl I've been texting for a while (and had a first date with the other night) a "bad little girl". The problem is she made it clear to me weeks ago that she doesn't like anything with the phrase "little girl" in it (so "bad girl" would have been just fine...but "bad little girl" is a no-no). It was legit just carelessness on my part and it shouldn't be a big deal...but clearly it is to her as she's made a point of ignoring me for the rest of the day which isn't like her. She may reply and tell me that made her vagina dryer than a sauna but right now, I can't see that happening... None of the usual takeaways seem appropriate given this is so obviously my fuck-up. So what should my follow up (tomorrow or the day after) be if she doesn't come back to me within that time? Is apologising fairly matter of factly i.e - "sorry I forgot you don't like that" - the kiss of death here? Should I just re-start the interaction? Should I say something somewhere between a takeaway and an apology - "you've been quiet, everything okay?" if I give it a few days? I'm a bit stumped with this one guys.
Hey guys, so gonna call on the PWF community for a bit of advice with this one... This is one of my better text exchanges (for better or worse). Sure, I think looking back it's maybe a little too gamey and there could have been different decisions made in parts of this but fundamentally this is a decent looking chick and she's showing decent compliance for a good 85% of this... That said, it was close but no cigar...yet. Hence the problem. I can't decide based on where we're at right now whether to re-engage in a few days in some way, shape or form or whether just to leave it at that as her last message was a bit of a "fuck you"...maybe you'll disagree but that's definitely how it read at the time particularly with those damn full-stops! Just to say also, if I was critiquing myself - as I said before, a bit over gamey + wish I hadn't entertained the whole Valentines shite + last few texts were a bit suboptimal. But yeah, so a few questions: Should I re-engage (like 3 days after the last text) or just leave it? If yes, re-engage - what is the re-engagement? Further takeaway or simply restarting the convo (I'd say latter) How do I re-establish compliance? Cheers guys!