I dated this girl for a month during quarantine, but I broke up with her. Few months ago I matched with her on tinder again. After that last message she didn’t respond, so I unmatched. What did I do wrong? Is she completely turned off and if we were to march again, would I have a shot. Would hitting her on ig be appropriate?
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she said "romantic sex????" then the yearning thing slipped in. based on her reaction after, i'd say it's probably yellow light. she's not ignoring you but not making it obvious that she wants you to keep going. imo, a potential green light for you to drop that bomb would be something like "mm some romantic sex sounds lovely" or some shit.
i didn't say it was wrong to keep sexting, but you definitely went too far too fast. you could have just started with the first sentence, ended with a "...", and if she bit on that keep going. if you look at some of Alex and Indian PE's other lay reports, they follow a similar pattern -- build up to the sexualization, and if they drop a mega paragraph like that it's usually preceded with ensuring her compliance / interest.
as she said, she wasn't against being sexual, but she was just thrown off by the lack of calibration and how quickly you ramped it up
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If I were to rematch with her or hit her on ig should I apologize. Is there even an opener for this scenario?
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responded above, lmk if you can't see it. i'd prefer swipe up on story since it's smoother.
if you really wanna try DMing, i'd probably just be casual and say callback humor / reference to something when you were dating, or just "how's my favorite {her job/ethnicity}?"