Comments by Jonathon A

Yeah I think you're right, the first text was manageable but the second one was shit.

Regarding your question... I barely have free time, so I just recently started cold approaching. With this girl I was pretty nervous. I started overthinking because I thought she was out of my league, so I just walked passed her. But then I realized I would regret being a pussy, so I quickly jogged back, got her attention by saying "hey, excuse me", and then I said "Hey, sorry to bother you. I was just heading to my car but I thought your style was cute and wanted to say hi." I also got lucky here because I just happened to be her type, so I could tell she was cool with me walking with her.

In my case, I'm not in school anymore but I have a job on campus. I actually don't approach there too often because my campus is relatively small and I don't want to get recognized. I usually start by getting the girl's attention followed by "hey sorry to bother to you. I was just going - (to lab, to meet friends, etc) - but I thought your style was cute and wanted to say hi". The girl usually says "Oh thank you" and then from there I'll ask what she's up to and gauge her reaction.

A few tips I'd give:

1. Find a coach who's infield you resonate with and try to apply his practices. For me that was Vadeem because we have similar taste in women and he has more of the humor/vibe that I have. Alex's stuff is good too, but he goes for different girl's than me, so his approach style is a bit different. Also watch Alex's podcast with JackDenmo. That guy has a really good vibe when he approaches.

2. Just do it. Even if you're nervous literally just say my line. Eventually you'll realize most girls are nice about it even if she's not into you. I learned this when one of the first girls I went up to started giggling and smiling when I complimented her. I didn't build enough sexual vibes and didn't pull, but I could tell she appreciated it even if she told me she had a boyfriend.

3. Don't go into interview mode. I've seen a lot of beginners do that out of nervousness. They started asking too many questions. It can get annoying for the girl, and also leads to platonic vibes. Instead, try to talk to her a bit, and find something to playfully tease her about, like if she was a friend.

4. When I was younger I was really extroverted but I've turned into an introvert over time, so I feel you. One thing that helps me is practicing by myself in the mirror. Sounds lame, but you get a feel for your facial expressions, tonality, conversation threads, etc. How you say things matters much more than what you say.

5. Try to looksmaxx, but don't get hung up on it while you approach. Obviously going to the gym, groomed facial hair, style, etc, is important. But honestly, I look a lot better now, and I'm currently pulling less than I did when I was skinny teen who dressed like shit. The difference is I used to be naturally social and funny, and that fun, confident vibe is probably the most important part of success with women.

6. Remember girls have flaws and insecurities too. The girl I went up to today looked perfect from far away, but as we started talking I noticed some acne scars and little things like that. She's still really cute though, but if I didn't go up to her I would still have an idealized version of her that I thought was completely out of my league, when in reality, she was interested in me too.

Good luck bruv and lmk if you have more questions (I'm still beginner-intermediate, but my fuck ups have taught me a lot so far)

If you're getting ghosted it's possible your profile isn't congruent with overt sexuality. It works for Alex because he mentions his work as a "sexologist" and gives that vibe. Depends on the girl too. Some are down but if they don't feel comfortable w you yet it can trigger ASF.

Here, when she asked how your week is going, you could've put "it's going... just missing a little Kinleigh in my life" or something to that effect.

She gave you the chance again. Some options:

1. "actually I have a romantic date with a cutie from ______________. Just need to know when she's free"

or ----> "a romantic date with a cute (nurse, barista, psych student, etc). Just need to know what days she's free"

2. "Busy planning our romantic date. Do you like wine btw"

Do you know Spanish? Those examples were for you to personalize based on your own profile. If the girl is into you take that lines is usually taken flirtatiously.

Post her profile so we can see her vibe. Seems done to me but she took the time to type that so idk. Here are some options:

1. My choice: "Okay nerd. Are you always this good at flirtatious banter" or "Okay nerd. Do you always take flirtatious banter literally"

2. "Don't worry, my dreamy eyes are seductive enough"

3)SAFE: "Fair enough. So tell me about yourself... any tattoos? felonies? crazy exes I should know about"

Idk why you'd assume that, but only one way to find out.

Ex)

1. "Other than good taste in men, tell me about yourself... any felonies, tattoos, crazy exes I should be aware of?"
2. "That's convenient because I'm picturing us enjoying wine on my romantic balcony while I seductively whisper spanish in your ear"
3. "Your type is romantic nerdy guys with exquisite cooking skills?"

Keep us posted

Then you should post your tinder and other messages to see what went wrong. Based on this screenshot, I'm gonna guess she liked you at first but then you came off too neutral (or even boring) and she lost interest.

She just wasn't invested/ interested. Your texts at the end were too long/uninteresting.

Watch alex's recent video on "how not to be boring". Need to keep it more light hearted

I feel these low investment or usually time wasters. But you can maybe try to spike some emotions and see if she invests

1. "Give it time. So tell me about yourself...any tattooes, felonies, crazy exes I should know about?"

2. "love the enthusiasm. So tell me about yourself...any tattooes, felonies, crazy exes I should know about?"

3. "No shit. So tell me about yourself...any tattooes, felonies, crazy exes I should know about?"

Have you seen Alex's recent vid titled "how not to be boring"?

You're a bit too wordy. And I agree, that last text was weak. It didn't move the convo forward in anyway

Can you post the texts? For both the 1st date and 2nd date. That would help give us an idea of her personality.

From what your saying it seems like you made her lose interest. I've been with girls there were boring/ no compatibility but the physical attraction was enough to secure the lay.