Date 10 Days Away
I setup a date 10 days out from yesterday. I normally don’t set up dates this far in advance. Should I check in a few days before hand or just the usual check in the day of the date?
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I setup a date 10 days out from yesterday. I normally don’t set up dates this far in advance. Should I check in a few days before hand or just the usual check in the day of the date?
I matched with this girl I’ve known for about 20 years. I was never close with her, but was good friends with her friends (banged a few of them) back in the day. I randomly made out with her 10 years ago at a nightclub, but not sure if she remembers any of this. Anyways I think I should’ve bantered a bit more as I don’t think she was hooked yet. Maybe my last line was a little flat? I was just re-soft closing as it had been a week since we last texted. Is it fine to use a standard takeaway here, something like “if you’re too nervous I’d understand”, or say something else?
https://forums.playingfire.com/posts/overinvested-how-to-follow-up So this is a follow up to the above thread. The girl was a bit slow to respond but ultimately I got the number and soft closed for drinks. Once we switched to text she ghosted on two close attempts. She was insta replying to my messages so maybe my last message about where she was from wasn’t necessary, could have just suggested the meet instead. The plan was to close in the text after that one but she didn’t reply. For some reason my phone deleted two messages. After her text about having work due Monday I said ahh sounds stressful what are you studying. She said biotechnology and pharmaceutical engineering. Then I said the artsy line. Thoughts?
Matched with this girl before the holidays. I was out of town for three weeks so the interaction had a bit of a delay in it. I tried soft closing last weekend and she was “sick” and now says this. I feel like this usually means she’s not interested or has some other objection. Haven’t had to use any takeaways or anything up to this point. Thoughts? Maybe go with “ah that sounds stressful, but honestly I’m busy too. I’m sure if we put our heads together we could find an hour to grab a quick drink or coffee”
I overinvested a bit with my 2nd message. She’s been a bit slow to respond since. Been 3 days since my last message. Can this be revived?
Girl super liked, drawing a blank here *Update, went with “hmm what are my options” Her reply “depends on what you would want to do for the date” I’ll just move this towards a quick drink date now
Girl flaked twice, convo to this point was pretty standard. Had to double text a few times on Bumble. She seems a bit like the party girl type. Did I play this okay? How to follow up going forward?
I’m talking a break from alcohol. Should I still go on drink dates and just get a non alcoholic beer or something? Should I tell this to the girls beforehand?
Vibe has been solid. She’s been investing a lot most answers are a full paragraph. Her last text she basically says she wants to go direct to my apt. Cold feet?