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It comes with a heavy heart that I regret to inform you guys that I think that the curious opener is officially cooked :/ I pulled rabbit out of my hat for a cheeky remark to volley a response back but I love this opener so much, probably used it 50+ times. I just thought you guys might get a kick out out this response. Too many normies catching on! luckily there are several other good openers to keep on rotation
Yo dudes. So I've been seeing this girl from tinder for a little over a month now. She has a cool personality and is a good hang so I want to keep seeing her. The problem is that she is really a busy body, and packs her schedule so full with work/family/activities that I am having a hard time seeing her. We went out on valentines and it was a great time, but now I've been trying to schedule a date / hang out for over two weeks now and still just getting excuses. We've banged like 4x and I don't get ho3 vibes from her at all, no tattoos and conservative leaning (if that means anything). We sorta agreed we wouldn't see anyone else so kind of exclusive. I'm wondering how long I should hold out before I tell her 'See ya later' and try and go date other girls again. I'm supposed to see her tomorrow but if she cancels again for some reason I'm really contemplating just leaving it open ended, and bouncing. What do you guys think? Also I had another girl randomly hit me up asking about a FWB situation and then I scheduled and cancelled a date with her because current girl said she really did miss me and want to see me. Behavior over words in this situation?? Have never dealt with this dilemma before... Also P.S. that email newsletter that Alex sent about long term dating the other day was fire, so thanks for that !
This seems like a good place to get some honest accurate numbers and see how I can compare my experience with online dating since September. It would probably help every guy to know the odds we are up against. I live in a rural area and want to move to a larger metro/college town. So I'll go first. Me (male/30/caucasian) Match to lay ratio = 11% [2/18 matches] Opener to 1 response ratio = 73% Opener to 2 response ratio = 36% I should add that one of my two lays was me randomly running into a girl I matched with on tinder and approaching her, had I not somehow met her in person I guarantee it would've been another dud. How are you guys doing in this bullshit game? Leave a comment/humble brag of your results !
I had a date last monday with this girl which was good, then another home 'movies' date Thursday night and hooked up. It was hot and we both finished. Then I tried to schedule a 3rd date and shes cancelled twice for what I think are legitimate reasons. But now she's very slow to text or respond. We live 30 minutes away from each other. The chemistry seemed really good and she seemed interested still. Any feedback would be great!
Just wanted to put this out there if any guys are struggling. I got my first same day lay last week and then this week got laid with a different girl (not SDL). The second girl I matched with on tinder a couple weeks ago and chatted with for a bit. She kinda went cold and then I randomly saw her at my gym (which she never goes to). I had to grow a pair and did a warm approach to gauge interest. She was busy working out so I left her alone but later she went on the treadmills with her girl friend. She was going to leave so I went over again and got the number close. We messaged over the weekend and I got her out on a hiking date the following week. Then last night managed to get her to come over for a margs and movies date. We hooked up and are still texting / planning out another date. I basically got dumped in July and was feeling really bad about my self image but got a photoshoot and threw myself on the dating apps. A couple catfishes and some subpar dates and now got laid twice in two weeks, the second girl 9 years younger than me, and also super fit gym bae type with an excellent ass. If I can do it then you guys can do it too. I would note that I've spend an exceptional amount of time on gym/fitness/diet and bulked up a good amount of muscle to improve my physique over the last two years (5'7 & 170lb). Also daily facial skin routine is a must. Hope this helps any guys feeling down about their inner game and potential. The Fire texts app has helped numerous times in tight situations where I didn't know how to respond.
I recently had my first same day lay, and it was fantastic. But now I have been trying to get this girl out on a date again/come over and she is being goofy as hell. Taking 6-8 hours to reply to my texts, very short replies, playing hot and cold, cancelling last minute, saying one thing and then flip flopping the decision... The hookup was okay but not super great chemistry. It's bizarre, especially since she agreed on the spot that we could hang out at her's in two days (during the first date). I don't think I've been overly needy or beta to turn her off since.
Here are my current photo's for bumble and tinder in order. I've only been on the apps about 3 weeks now. 4 number closes and 3 dates. Two of them so far have been catfishes/fat girls... have one on saturday with a milf 4 y/o older than me. And my bio currently: "you can't choose your father, but you CAN choose your Daddy. Fit guy looking for a fit gal. gym baes ->swipe right"
