Banged this girl from my social circle a few times already. Every time I’ve done so, it’s been when we’ve all hung out as a group and I took her home.
Now I’m looking to smash but without hanging out with our friends. Been play texting with her every so often but I’m not sure how to go about it.
I play banter a bit and I know I have to move things forward, but how direct should I go?
Should I ask her what she’s up to tonight?
Should I soft close her to hang out first?
Should I send her a sensual meme and say “this could be us tonight”
Thanks!
A girl I hooked up with last night showed me about 30 or so Bumble, Hinge, Snapchat, and Instagram DMs. I told her I was curious what guys are DM’ing her and if they tend to fail a lot.
I also tried to predict what dudes say such as “oh I bet you get a lot of bad openers or ones that are difficult to respond to.” She smiled, didn't say a word, and excitedly started to pull up the DMs.
As predicted, I saw consistent flaws in the DMs.
Here are some takeaways:
Guys go for the meetup right away without any vibing. Causing her to just go straight to no.
Giving the girl TOO much value such as “You are the girl of my dreams (heart eyes emoji x 3).” She will just go “thanks :)” and the guy will go “Sorry but, I have to ask, can I take you out on a date?” She ends up saying no politely or just ignoring.
Very few used takeaways. The ones who used takeaways were the typically the player type guy (Dressed well, decent photos, fit).
Guys are endless chat buddies with the girl without moving anything forward. No sexual intent.
One dude chatted with her for months, showed no sexual intent, then randomly dropped a sexual intent. She kept on throwing this dude a bone, but the guy NEVER moved it forward! Never asked to hang out to make shit happen. She said this guy was annoying because it took him this long to move it forward.
There are a LOT of DM’s on each of the many social/dating platforms. She’s had some sitting or left on read on purpose.
For Instagram, she finds that low post amount, shitty quality photos (blurry, pixelated), and private accounts are red flags and will almost dismiss you immediately.
Thought this might be a useful "research project" to add to the PWF community.
Continuation of a previous post asking what to do after a no response:
I followed up with an "hola linda" to get it going. She bites down immediately.
I freeze because I'm in my head too much of figuring out what to say, as in, should I flirt now?
I drop the next line "is that the emoji that grabs booty? if so thanks" - playful misinterpretation
She goes " Lol I never saw it that way, I like it" (joy emoji) - This looks like shes rewarding the vibe
I want to drill it down a bit further sexually so I go "guess you're the innocent type (smirk emoji)" - I do this because I'm guessing shes not dirty enough to think those thoughts
She responds with "I come off that way (blush emoji) - I was trying to read inbetween the lines and drop this:
Me: "Oh is that so" - thinking of doing a takeaway. Right after I sent it I thought it wasnt a good idea. Maybe should've rewarded?
Her: Lol what do you think? (boom good time to tell her what she is like)
Me; Cute with innocent vibes, but with a wild side
Her: "Sounds like me (angel)"
Me: Love it. We should combine our wild sides sometime soon - I wanted to reward her answer and move it forward. Not sure if I did this well at all.
She stops responding.
I'm now back in the "lets wait 48 hours before re-engaging"
TL:DR - tried to banter/sexualize and move forward but again no response.
Question
What could I have done better here? More vibing? (She cold approached me with her friend last Friday. We follow each other on Instagram)
Background
Two girls opened me at a bar. I was solo. Girl #1 was interested and her wing woman was doing a great job of making us connect. Luckily I found Girl #1 attractive. Ended up pulling both of them to my apt walking distance away.
Yes I was physical with Girl #1 (arm holding, hugging, peck on cheeks/lips)
No, I did not lay. Girl #1 was driving her friend and they lived like 25 mins away. I should've gotten one of them the Uber but parking sucks in Downtown Dallas.
I exchanged info (number) and they both started following me on Instagram.
Next Day (Saturday)
I open with the gosling meme
She replies with a gif and a happy Saturday
I ask how her day is going (you frame)
She replies with "omg busy day at work, yours???" (seems like a decent investment response)
I respond with "at the gym getting ready for our hot date" (always doing something awesome)
She: "Is that right" with a winky face emoji
Me: (trying to be a bit sexual) - "as long as you behave" with a smirk emoji.
She doesn't respond. Its now been 72 hours since my last text.
QUESTION/ADVICE
Should I respond by stacking on top of my last text saying "its ok, you can still be naughty" or should I ignore and reopen with "hola linda" or a funny meme?
Side note
She religiously views my Instagram stories (I post 10x a day, mostly memes to draw up some engagement from my audience).
She's viewed them everyday.
