IMO, 2 looks great because you can pretty much see your whole face - sure you have a hat and glasses on, but your neck isn’t covered up, your jacket and body language is open.
Sure, 1, 5&6 also show your face, but they seem more posed. 1 is also too “in your face”, it’s not a bad picture but it is a selfie. Number 2 is candid, the smile looks great, it really captures a moment.
Go with 2 over number 1 imo.
Thanks for the advice.
Yeah she seems like the shy girl next door, hence the homebody joke at the start of our interactions last week. She’s also doing A-Level exams which are pretty important here in the UK, so she’s probs a bit stressed, but I don’t see that as an excuse to not let her hair down and have some fun.
We’ve had some fun and flirty conversation, she said she likes my confidence in a good way, I know something clearly does attract her but fuck me it’s effort lol
Never heard of DHV before but will read into it. I know I could bang her but I’m still deciding whether the effort/pain in the ass like you said...
I’ll probably ping her a message later. Thanks
I think she’s just a time waster.
She says “nothing just busy”, which I interpret as I don’t want to see you, cos if she’s got nothing in her life holding her back, then she’s choosing to hold back....
So I ghosted, and lo and behold, she reengaged again. But she messaged late and I was getting into bed, so cba to respond.
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Yeah you’re right, I appreciate your advice. Logistical obstacle is a better description. But would that mean it’s still worth keeping my hand in it, considering she’s reached out again?
Albeit talking about some random shit idc about (my work colleague’s/her best friend’s breakup)... like do I bother engaging with her to keep her on good terms, or take as she just doesn’t wanna see me.
I don’t want to be text buddies, but I might still have to engage with her to keep us current?
Images below, what do you think. @Samay R @Bob Rao
Yeah there’s defo truth to what you’re saying.
I just don’t think she was interested enough to reengage though. She’s thrown an objection, I’ve given a pragmatic response along the lines of “we can work around it”.
One could argue that ghosting her would perhaps come across as being dissuaded/disheartened or butthurt by the objection though, essentially I’ve just acknowledged it and given a neutral response. A positive response, I.e. chasing further for another date, would give her too much power. A negative response, I.e. getting upset, would display weakness on my part. My neutral response displays indifference. What do you think?
I’ve gone and responded with a slight variation of Samay R’s message. Since the situation wasn’t optimal, I think it was a damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
I’m not going to be text buddies with her, and if she does come back with a date, odds are by then I’ll have met someone else anyway so she’ll get binned.
Well, imma ghost. She hasn’t offered when she might be free, so I’ll take your advice and still keep her number, but I ain’t putting in any more effort😂
Frrrr I basically had the same text lined up. I’ll chuck it out there and see if it lands. If not, onto the next. Thanks mate.
Side note - fucking hell am I ever going to go through this effort for an 18 year old. She’s got shit chat
What do you reckon to this then. Keep chatting normal or just try ask her our again?
Appreciate it bro. I guess I’m just not used to having to wait and play the long game. Other girls I’m talking to rn are so much more invested and fun, this one’s dry af but maybe it’s the age thing.
I’ll just text her normally now, few more questions to get to know her and tease her a little, see if that opens her up some more.