So I went on a date to a wine bar with my bumble match, and we were getting along pretty well and connecting on common stuff. We went to a couch, and were talking. It was just two of us, we were talking and she started hinting how it's getting late and she had a long day which made her tired. I aaid "I know a way to blow off some steam" and then I went in for the kiss and asked her if that helped with the pain. She was like "no. it gets me more excited". I thought it was a signal for more kiss, but when I went it again she objected to going home and left, I walked her halfway, sensed she was tense and I left.
Later she sends me this text. How should I address her concern and possibly try saving this date
So matched with this chick on Bumble, had a good first date, and we madeout towards the end but didn't get laid. We set up a second date, but I think I was late by 45 mins in confirming the date to which she flaked. It's been a week now, should I reopen or wait for her to reply.
Texts in the pic are after our first date (in case the order of texts are messed up lemme know and I will reupload)
Hey guys, just wanted to share a success story from a cold approach. Few months back at a library I approached this beautiful Asian chick. I opened with a stupid "Hey what time does the library closes?" (I knew the time already I am a regular). As it was late, I asked her what she's working on, and she told me she's working on her resume. I asked for some pointers and then just talked quite a bit. I found out that we went to same uni. Initially, my convo was 5% flirt, 95% talking about common stuff and some humor to 60% flirting and 30% common stuff.
As it was late at night, I offered her to walk her home "like a gentleman" to which she laughed and agreed. On the way back home, we flirted and bantered, she told me how her ex was older than her, and how I am older than her, and I picked her a little bit on that. Later, I told her how I find her attractive and I'd like to hangout with her, she told me she find me charming as well and I commented on how fate brought to charming people together. Before dropping her, I made a bold step and kissed her, she turns out to be an amazing kisser! Next morning I texted her how it was magical to meet her, but she did not replied. I waited patiently because I had known I had done everything right
She texts me back at night saying, it was good, but she does not want to see me as she recently went through a breakup. I did not fall into her frame and sent her a picture of this delicious chicken recipe that I had cooked and asked her "So... does that mean you don't wanna taste this great dish". She does a 180 and we set up a "farewell" date.
We meet at her place and she shows up in a hot outfit. We kiss each other, and have our meal and then hangout at her building. We makeout again, this time more passionately and she tells me ,she's excited however she's not allowed to bring any guy home, as her roommate lives there.
I waited for a while, flirted with her and made out with her, then she finally says, ok let's sneak in! We sneak into her place, and have night of one of the most amazing sex. We left some marks on each other and next day laughed on each other's wildness ;)
Thanks to Alex's guide, and the book "Sex God method" I realised importance of good sex to keep a girl around. We still fuck each other from time to time, and every time it gets wilder. However, I still focus more on work now, and barely get time to hangout with her, which makes her desire me even more. She's even open to idea of me having rotation, as long as she doesn't get to hear about it!
So I had a bumble date today, my date said she's gonna be 20 mins late cause she forgot stuff at her apartment and had to run back to get it. I went to a nearby place and to run an errand and reached there 5 mins after her.
We met, and she said I kept her waiting for 10 mins, this has never happened to her and she stormed off. Here's the text off the aftermath.
AmI I in the wrong here? What can I learn from this
Here's the problem with me, I start off with a good opener but I fumble up after first few interaction when I try to act witty. I understand I am not always witty, but I get stuck on a stalemate trying to move the convo. Case in point, thia convo, it's been a week she hasn't replied and it's making me cringe. How can I turn this convo around and make my game better.
Context : we are talking about few indie bands that we love
My uni has literally tons of hot babes, but my social anxiety cripples me really bad and on top of that most of the girls are in a group. Given the social context that I find girls mostly in a cafeteria or common study areas (won't approach her when she's studying). or gym How should I break ice within the context of the place we are at and with a group, since most college girls hang out in groups. I am not really the party type, and given up drinking, so try to avoid such places.
I have this big issue in not being able to kiss the girl on first date. I did physically escalate, gave her an hug on meeting sat next to her for the show. But I never made any moves on her, I think that was my biggest fault.
How do you escalate with a stranger on a first date so you dont endup with texts like these. Not to mention, paying for almost everything on the date , since she wanna be friend now might as well ask her to split 🙄
So, I matched with this girl on 20th October, hit her with a pickup line and she was ONNN, heavy investments, we binded over metal music, paragraphs and then she said we should meet, but she's travelling till the 1st Nov.
I waited and texted her a bit to keep the lead warm, she never replied but today she hits me with this. At first I texted have a good day but then I saw Alex turn these situations around.
Should I hit her with "I get it things get in life, but we got along so well and leaving things in between would be anticlimactic, wont hurt to hang out once" ?
So I met this chick on first date. Made the grave mistake of getting there late by 1 hr (due to some personal work) sje was visibky angry and reluctant for a hug, our plan for attending a light show failed so we went to an Irish pub and talked a lot. She was mirroring my body language and we were standing quite close in subway train, good eye contact, she was interested in convos too. She mentioned she had gone on a date every week, and was still looking for something serious, she did mention she was type A person, and I couldnt flirt much with het and I wasnt sure if I could kiss or sexualize at end of date, so just gave her a hug, kiss on cheek and we parted ways on subway.
Here's the text that followed. I tried sexualizing as a hail mary attempt. She hasnt replied back since yesterday, what should I do?
Before you roll your eyes after reading the title, hear me out! Recently I matched with this girl I really liked and we were getting along well, she was eager to see me anf even asked me of my availability when I asked to go out for coffee and to connect on insta. I told her the days I am available and asked where she put up (to plan a place) she stopped replying and denied my insta request as well.
Now I know mostly you guys would suggest to move on, and I would, but honestly is there a way I can turn this around? Girl literally ghosted after everything went so well and I got no idea where it went wrong
PS: I am really fucking angry when this type of shit happens especially when they lead a guy on and ghost without any closure. This one was really my type and potentially long term, why the fuck does it always end like this!!
