Girls lose interest after dates and communication fizzles out..Help!?
Stats: 32 yo, but get regularly clocked at 23-26 due to youthful face. 6'2'' (6'4'' in thick heels, insoles), jacked, tan, 200 lbs or so, bf ranges from 12-15%. Head full of hair. Good style (I've improved wardrobe over years and even had a stylist). Hobbies: various sports, gym, reading books, did some dancing. Have enough money and my own small business and am constantly improving it. Purpose: I have that, my purpose is a company / startup I'm working on, so I have that part handled. I date girls in wide range of 18-33. Some background: I have no problems getting numbers on Tinder and even getting first dates. I even get numbers from cold approach on street sometimes. My problem is usually girls rarely want to do second or third dates. Sometimes they go on second and third dates, but over time usually like 95% of those relationships fizzle out. There are a few girls I've been seeing for a few months and we've been on a date every few weeks and I even kissed them, but they refuse to come to my place and basically show little interest, never message me, etc. Even though I tried to escalate with these girls, touching, even kissing and they seem excited on dates, they are very hesitant to meeting over again and going to my place. My shirtless pic mostly gets me the Tinder matches and girls generally acknowledge that I have a very good body. I've been complimented on my physical attributes. I have whitened teeth, tan, full head of hair, all that... My body is my selling point though. When girls have sex with me, they will always want to stick around, but I VERY rarely get to that part. I am not needy and text mostly for logistics only (once or twice a week) as recommended by pretty much everyone "pickup artist" in the industry. Although I'm not sure how good of a suggestion it really is... I tried listening to friend and being more of a nice guy and telling a girl I liked her after the date and messaging very soon, but they lost interest immediately, so I don't do it anymore and take my time so they get to wonder. (although I have suspicions they just lose interest). I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't have oneitis or anything, it's just the general trend I've seen over the years that I'm not happy with. I've had had 3 girlfriends before from LTRs (1 hot 8/10 from cold approach, 1 above avg 6.5/10 from cold approach, 1 average 5/10 from Tinder), but it was a pain in ass to get them (had to go on so many dates and through so many numbers). I've had one first night lay when Tinder girl basically took me, so I have the body and looks to pull those. If I had to make a guess the problem for another person in my situation for a chance to win a million dollars, here could be the possible reasons: 1) I might be too jittery and don't have a really low, super masculine voice (my voice is average, but its not "sexy"). It's lower in the mornings and when I'm relaxed or on a xannie. 2) I maybe appear too cold or distant? Maybe girls expect me to message them after dates, maybe they expect flowers or some more fancier stuff on dates? I don't know how to fix this. Russian girls especially. 3) I think it is either related to body language, communication nuance or voice, but I'm not sure which and combination of which. I sent examples of my voice so vocal surgeon who does voice lowering and they said I already have reasonably low voice and if they lower it, they would reduce resonance and I would benefit most from vocal training if I want to perfect it, but its generally good if I'm relaxed, so idk. If I had to choose ONE thing that might be a problem for this person, my inclination would be that it's somewhat related to behavior, communication. On dates, I try to LISTEN a lot to these girls, make observations about emotional stuff (It seems you like to travel a lot, etc...), I try to talk about their relationships, what men they like, try to get a bit sexual, increase intensity, talk about emotions, travels, etc... Where do I get help and how to fix this? How do I identify the problem? I even asked some girls what was wrong, they said they didn't feel the "spark", which probably meant I was not escalating for sexual tension. I fixed that in last dates and touch girls, carry them around, do a quick dance or pat them on the head (if they are shorter) and do playful stuff like that. But the results are still not there. I just don't know at this point. I've gotten hundreds of numbers, been on like 90+ dates and only had sex with 9 girls during my lifetime (I must admit I had a lot of sex in my LTRs) and I'm in my 30, this sucks. I do reject the girls that are very ugly (usually rotten teeth or obese or something like that), so I guess I have some "standards", but I don't go only for models. If a girl is 6.5/10+ I will consider her as long as teeth are in relatively good shape. The problem is most of the time they just get unresponsive. Looking for any help at this point. Thank you so much!