Feeling frustrated as I can't get any second dates, any advice?
I've been on dating apps on and off for a year and have gone on around a few dozen first dates after improving my text game. Forget about getting them home, I can't even get past the first date as most just don't reply or just ghost/unmatch after the date and the ones who do, mention that there wasn't any spark/ we weren't compatible. I'm completely frustrated on what is causing this issue as there is no feedback whatsoever apart from knowing I fucked up somewhere. Self assessment: 1) Conversation/flirting: First off, I think I am a terrible flirt irl, my convos feel pretty boring even if I ask them exciting and different questions based off of advice here and in general. I also have a bad sense of humor and cannot make any sexual jokes even if I try hard. It is the complete opposite of what I come off while doing text game. In fact, I STILL don't even know how to flirt/what flirting is nor seem to learn it from all these dates. 2) Physical escalation: Advice online tells me I need to sexualize the convo and physically escalate to touching her but the girls just seem to be hesitant to answer or ask a question in return after sexualizing and or just straight up reject my advances of touch physically. I can get in a couple of shoulder taps and hand touching by using her bracelet/nails/tattoos as an excuse but have zero idea on how to go beyond that, especially if we're sitting at a bar table side to side....it also feels super awkward to put my arm around the girl's shoulder/waist or brush her hair since i got rejected for doing that on multiple dates. 3) Kissing: I try to go for a kiss at the end while leaving sometimes but the girl either puts her face away thinking of it as a harmless hug or just gets super surprised when I just go for it instead. Sometimes I just don't feel like kissing since I know the date didn't end well as the girl just uses an excuse to cut the date short quickly. In fact, all of my dates never last for more than an hour and half. 4) Venues: I've tried to switch things up and try different venues: Coffee shops, bars, dance clubs, walk in the parks, arcades, bowling and restaurants but none seem to work. Kind of feeling down after so many rejections (got rejected again just now on today's date with the typical excuse of 'we aren't compatible' while typing this lol) and have zero idea on where to focus or how to improve my perceived and other possible shortcomings. Any advice? @avilench If you offer mentorship for in-person dating or know anyone who does it here locally please lmk, thanks in advance -PHX Arizona Local