It wasn’t possible to do that or I would have. Believe me.
Thanks for your input and help brother
What do you mean. I tried the first time, she didn’t respond and then said she was too busy next time I saw her in person. I stopped paying attention to her for 2 weeks and every time I saw her I’d let her initiate. We see each other in the morning getting coffee before we both go to work. When I reengaged her she was feeling it and 3-4 messages later she stopped responding
I took the second one word for word from him. I didn’t like it at first, he insisted.. and he’s actually given me really solid advice and completely turned around lame text convos before for me. This is the only time it didn’t work..
I see her in the morning before work. She knows I work far away. We were on the topic of work and the weather.. She said something about shoveling the driveway was hard on her own. I took it as a shit test and went non reactive and moving along. She was replying quick, I took a little while and said “Just got all the way to work, set up shop, and then closed up shop. The roads out here are shit, be safe.” Hr later I asked advice from a game aware person. He said I should add more excitement and a tease responding to her prior text. An hr later I said in a joking voice.. “oh by the way if you’re looking for someone to shovel snow I’m pretty damn good however I do charge a very steep price so I hope you have some money girl”
Update everybody. I ran into her like 5 more times and left my headphones in and let her initiate every single time and do all the work. When we’d chat I would flirt subtly, pass little shit tests, and be the first to leave. The last time I saw her I elbowed her and said I’d catch her later. She didn’t want me to leave and when I went to my car she rushed out behind me and ripped off her mask. She had a smirk, as I was pulling out she stood behind my car with a big smile and was waving. I saw it all in my rear view mirror. I decided it was enough investment from her to initiate another text interaction if I didn’t hear from her within a half hr. I did and she replied in under a minute. Texts were going great until I sent 2 bad voice notes getting ahead of myself and too comfortable 😐. She didn’t reply and I believe she went to another store to avoid me. Every time I’ve gone here since I met her I have seen her. I think I may have fucked it up for good. Had 2 other great interactions yesterday leading to #s and fucked both of them up as well. Feels bad man, I ruin it every time
My analysis is this, I waited too long to text her (9 hrs this happened before we both went to work)
My texting was too gamey
Torero has said that once a girl is down and hooked there is no need for wit or game and that you are more likely to fuck it up or turn her off. I was aware of this before texting her but it still came across gamey.
She was embarrassed by how forward she was..
I’ve encountered this problem many times dealing with girls. You work up their interest and excitement so much before meeting that the only place for it to go is down and it leaves them feeling self conscious of how they acted and they withdraw. ASD. Anti-slut defense. This has happened at least 3 times recently.
I’m also convinced this girl saw me many times because her approach seemed calculated, she looked familiar, and her first words before even an introduction were “I can’t believe I’ve never seen you before”
She saw me before we go to the same spot every morning. She saw me when I was in a better headspace and more confident (which would have been any day other than the one we met) I was feeling particularly terrible that day and her expectations could have also not been met as I was incongruent from my normal outgoing self at this location
Ok so what I’m saying is, I’ve been doing pickup for about 6 months steady with many interactions. Game for 2 years or so (poorly). Of every girl I’ve ever encountered in my entire life (pickup or not) this girl showed more interest on first meeting than ANY. Is this clear enough? Lol
IVE NEVER HAD A GIRL SHOW MORE INTEREST THAN THIS GIRL ON FIRST MEETING
I’ve already moved on and have done more approaches. I just can’t seem to communicate this and it is frustrating
Thanks brotha good advice 👍