Stalemate problem with all my dates and matches, solutions?
Tried practising "ball is in her court" approach and it is working out terribly so far. Some examples (rough translations): 1.girl Tried to arrange second date with a girl I saw once (I reached out after a week, no extra texting), a bit of banter and she said: "about meeting this week idk, maybe sunday" Since most "puas" said we don't accept "maybes" I replied "Sunday we can on 18:00. However, if youre not sure you can make it we can do it another time when your schedule is more clear. Let me know ;)" "Another evening would suit better, because I had planned to see my girlfriends that day and won't be free so soon" I replied: "Sacred thing, and sure, we can do it another time. If anything changes, let me know" GHOSTED FOREVER 2.girl Reached out 4 days after first date with "Hey, I hope you didn't get cold in the end" (we got in heavy rain) "No, all good, my immunity saved me :)" Then I sent voice note saying: "Well, it was nice meeting you and we should definitely meet again. Check your schedule, let me know when you're free and we'll make something happen" She gave it a heart like and never heard from her again. 3.girl this girl we met on Saturday and then she hit me up on Sunday because she was in town and I thought she wants to have sex, so I met her on Sunday, too, got her over to my house, but she had to leave for her city soon after and we only got to have coffee and flirt a bit. Everything moved quite fast. Messaged her about 3-4 days later. "Hey, how is my favorite equestrian doin" "Good" Voice message from me: "That's quite eloquent" her: "Have nothing to say :D" me: "Understandable, when I'm not around, nothing fun happens" her: "yeah yeah yeah :D" me: "It was cool together... send me days when you plan to be in city and we will meet again" [left on read] 4.girl. This one is from Tinder, but same issue. Me: "Hey, what does it look like, on which days its better for you? I can only do evenings." Her: "I won't be able to say now, very messy, not enough time" Me: "No problem. Send me days which you can do on second half of the week, I'll check with my schedule and we'll make it happen" [left on read indefinitely] 5.girl. Tinder girl [I initiated after she showed more interst because I stopped messaging as often] ... Me: "What's your schedule like this weekend" Her: "Maybe I will have some free time on sunday ;)" Me: "Sunday evening is good. If you aren't sure if you can make it we can do it another time. If you can definitely do Sunday, then let's meet at 18:00. Let me know ;)" I've slept with over 10 women in my lifetime and I'm not completely clueless. I can get dates pretty easily, but usually I get very bad response (ghosting, disinterest) after first date. I have no idea why, I tried correcting for errors, I've also gotten some women to do ONS with me. What I did wrong previously was contacting the girls too soon (that same evening) or trying to organize the next date on the first one (removing mystery). When you "leave ball in her court" it just remains there indefinitely. Before when I double-texted at times or was more persistant, I at least got more dates and sometimes more sex from this. So what's the problem and how to correct this? I also try to contact in evenings and don't respond immediately. I feel like these women are all burned, since it's been a week and they all left me on read. What ways are there to send non-needy text (double texting) to reengage? What ways are there to modify my approach for future to increase odds of successful conversion? EDIT: These aren't all cases. There are more, I am just too tired to write them all out, but they all go pretty much like this. EDIT2: "Just ditch them bro, not worth it", nah, I disagree. My goal is to maximise girl intake and if she is a "maybe" or "meh" girl I want to convert her to "yes" girl. Sleeping only with "yes" girls is not a marker of high skill, it's easy. Converting "meh" girls is hard, so I want to master it and need your help guys. Reengagement worked for me in the past. Girl age range: 18-24 My age: 26, 6feet, very fit, been told I'm "handsome" and "hot" by girls in my target range. Location: Tallin