I need some advice.
I wasn't sure about making this post, but careful consideration it could only serve as a valuable learning experience. There is so much conflicting advice out there and I feel like it has zero'd out for me after consuming enough of the whole spectrum. If you have any advice on what I need to do I would love to hear it. I've been dating this girl (social media model and absolutely gorgeous though not conceited) I met at work, our first date went great. She flaked a week before but we rescheduled it for a week later and I made out with her at a bar. The conversations go well, we've been facetiming almost every day and I've seen her pretty intensely during the last month. Our conversational chemistry is strong, I make her laugh and the interactions are genuinely enjoyable. There have been a few issues though. She has been late quite a few times to dates and she insults me sometimes. I don't know if it's playful but being called dumb or stupid is hardly teasing so I correct her on it. I'm not a "nice-guy" by any means, I don't resent women if they don't give me any pussy nor do I think that she owes it to me. I don't blame anyone except myself. However, we've been seeing each other for almost two months, around 15 dates or so and there has been nothing other than kissing. There is alot of obvious sexual innuendo in our conversations but she just isn't letting it progress. On one of our recent dates she asked me if I liked eating pussy, I said yes and asked her if she likes giving head, she said she loves it. It's not due to a lack of effort either, I know for a fact that she lives alone (could easily have me over) and enjoys sex. When I've driven her home from a date she has mentioned that she has barely anything to do later but when I talk about coming up to hers she shuts it down and says "maybe some day." On another occasion we were making out in my car and I put my hand on her chest over her clothes, she told me not to do that, I did it again since a playful no CAN (context of-course) mean yes sometimes and she told me later on that it made her uncomfortable which I apologized for. The way she talks about me leads me to believe she really cares about me, I think its genuine, I've consoled her when she was crying, talked with her about sensitive personal matters and even discussed a relationship and what we were both looking for. I don't wanna be played though, love is fucking cruel. I've been closed of for a very long time and It's kept me comfortable and focused on my career but life loses it's color without that excitement, that rush of adrenaline. Now what I don't understand is if I'm on the verge of getting some or if she has completely written me off mentally as a potential fuck and is there a way to change the frame that has been established of "you are not coming up to my room" but you can drive me around, listen to my problems and kiss me at the end of the night. Feel free to call me a fuckin weenie but I just need a little guidance of what approach to take, should I pull back and be more distant? Or just wait it out and see what happens. I just feel like a bitch being dragged along for ages. It's uncomfortable. I was about to fuck another girl a few weeks ago but stopped myself because I felt bad doing that to the girl I'm seeing.