Heres the thing:
I literally do everything that you suggested except for spending the night and that part is not due to me, but them not wanting to. Which I don't mind, I'm not about to beg them to stay, since I got my nut.
The last few girls I fucked, I've been practicing the sex god method on and made all but one squirt quite a bit, even without the dick. Crazy thing this is, the one that didn't squirt, happens to be the one I refuse to do pillow talk or anything emotional with and yet she is the one that keeps coming back.
So I honestly, don't know what the hell I'm doing wrong. Hell, even on my after sex text, they tell me its the best sex they had. Not all, but a lot. But when it comes to planning something a second time, that's where the shenanigans about keeping a girl starts happening. (busy, got stuff going on, ghost, excuses, not responding to text regarding a plan.)
I promise I do make it a point to keep emotionally connect with girls I'm attracted to after sex. Maybe they're just not feeling my vibe, or maybe its my looks. I truly don't know.