So I have two questions:
John Anthony’s channel got deleted. Would love to hear Alex’s take on this on the reason for deletion, and if that negatively impacts the truth about John. Many people are making “exposed” videos about him.. but he did a live with Bulldog Mindset very recently, so wondering if his authenticity stays or if things changed.
Pair bonding: this concept of sleeping with too many women could negatively fuck you up in the head and make you “miserable” when it comes to long-term partners... to me: like I said it sounds like a load of BS, because clearly Alex and other guys are living proof. So wondering what the truth about pair bonding is?
Hey guys, I need some help: right now, I’m at a stage where I just want to get laid and I’m not interested in getting into a serious relationship. I need some advice on how to look like a “fuck boy” or emulate something as close as that as possible.
I know that looking attractive requires lifting weights, proper grooming, proper fashion, a tan, maybe some tattoos, etc, etc all the things Alex mentioned. But one thing that is REALLY bothering me at the moment is choosing the right hairstyle lol.
I’m having trouble choosing between keeping my medium length hair and keeping a short stubble with slightly longer hair on the chin, or going back to a fade and lined beard like I had before. Here are some pictures:
The one in the red hoodie is me right now and then there is me with shorter hair. One thing I should mention is on dates: I’ve had girls tell me I look like a fuck boy and them guessing my body count being from 30 to 50s.
Wanted to add: I prefer the cleaner fade look because it’s just more masculine and clean, rather than long hair which could make a guy look gay
I recently watched a the denmo podcast and I really dislike the idea of gradually progressing by being friends first and then going forward. I personally like the idea of seeing a girl I like and approaching her no matter where it is. Sure gradual progression can work if I’m in a group activity or club like salsa, improv, intramural sports or whatever but I’m a strong believer in cold approach. And one thing that kinda gets on my nerves is why does it have to be at a bar specifically or a girl who I see everyday in the elevator? Wtf?!
Alex, I want to ask you: is it possible to get a girlfriend by literally seeing a cute girl on the STREET or anywhere random, approaching her with good game (she doesn’t even have to give me “choosing signals”) we vibe, I get her number, we go on a date, we hook up and then we start dating and she’s my girlfriend now?
I’m sick of all the YouTube content, I just want to get out there and get to work by approaching. I just want to know if this is possible, that’s it.
Just to add: in terms of smv: I’m 6ft tall, good looking (people have told me), in shape, financial situation is moving in a positive direction because I’ll be moving out pretty soon within the next 6-8 months, hopefully, my age is 23 and I dress well. So no need to mention smv over and over again.
I've heard it a million times that we need to stop caring what people think but I don't know where to begin. Is it sheer will? Killing my ego? Or are there certain rituals successful people do to conquer this joke of a problem? I call it a joke because it literally is one yet it destroys so many minds meanwhile there are REAL problems out there in the world. What are the practical ways to overcome this?
I would also like to add that there are levels to this like I may not care so much what a girl might think when I approach her. But if I try to approach a big group of people or try giving a speech in front of 100 people then I would shit my pants. So how do I work on this step by step and eventually conquer it completely? Because caring what others think is no way to live life and I want to kill this problem now.
Hey Alex, you mentioned in your video “how self improvement can ruin your life (5 traps to avoid)” that the deep inner work is important so that your house of cards is built on a stable foundation. You mentioned self esteem, getting over past traumas, etc. What are some practical practices and exercises I can start doing right now to implement these things in order to make sure I build my self-esteem, get over past traumas and built my foundation on a stable level?
What would be a strategy for hooking up with girls on the first date in my car if I live with my parents? Regardless of whether I met the girl from a dating app or cold approach?
This is probably the worst text msg I have received yet and at the absolute wrong time when I am flooded with school work. This is what she messages me: "Hey yuvi! It was nice getting to know you and I truly do appreciate all of our dates I did want to let you know I found a stronger connection with someone else and now. I'm in a relationship."
On the first date, I took her to dave and busters, we got food after that and then I banged her in the car. Second date we went on, we went for a walk on a street, got food after and then I fingered her but didn't bang her this time. On the third date she told me "I don't want to have sex right now because of your intentions." So it seems she was skeptical about my intentions. On the fourth date, we end up going to wonderland and at the end she asks me "when am I seeing you again, not to sound pushy."
I made a lot of mistakes when seeing this girl of course: first one was spending too much money, second one was not making her cum during sex but the thing is she was wet when we were banging so I'm not sure if that means anything, maybe I got a little emotionally attached. But what I don't understand is that she kept saying "I want a strong emotional connection" and was withholding sex I guess to get that, playing psychological tricks. All I know is that we both enjoyed the sex (I even asked her after and she said she did enjoy it) and she let me smash on the first date and decided to see me 3 more times after that. Was she testing the waters? I am super confused as to why she said this.
During the 3rd date, when she withheld sex I asked her is the problem anything physical? She said no. Anything mental? Ans: no. She was just worried about my intentions is what she kept saying.
I am not sure if she is seeing someone else or not, maybe she is lying, idk... but I just want to know what I did wrong that led her to sending that. We met off of hinge btw. I've watched playingwithfire's video about why it is important to have sex on the first date so that it builds investment, and it seems she was invested but there was not an emotional connection which idek what that means.
I feel embarrassed sending this, but I am listening to playingwithfire's advice from now on about cold approach and will be serious about it forever. I just feel like shit, confused and downright crushed with my confidence: I am having so many doubts with my ability to get a girlfriend, sex, my looks, my bedroom skills. When it comes to physical I am 6ft tall, in pretty good shape, decent looking face, decent voice and I do not have a small schlong at all, literally. SO what did I do wrong? I literally feel embarrassed saying all this, but I'm going to continue going out there and cold approaching consistently. Please tell me where I went wrong though?
Hey, I’m 22 years old and my 23rd birthday is coming up in November. I am someone who is extremely serious about getting girls but am just a little lost. Is 23 the perfect age to start cold approaching women consistently everyday and what is the age where it’s too old? I actually first started cold approaching when I was 17 but didn’t fully commit to it. Once covid hit when I was 19 that’s when everything plummeted lol. After covid I joined the frat in my university. I’ve recently been getting lots of dates from dating apps but I am just thinking about cold approach especially with the age thing. I don’t want to have any regrets in my life and I know I have been taking action since I was 17 so I’m proud of that but I want to be 100000% serious from now on and commit fully to my goals.
So I met this girl off hinge and 2 weeks ago we hooked up on the first date. The sex was absolutely amazing. But now she is sending me this message: I was flirting with her but then she suddenly sent me this message talking about emotional connections, after I was trying to sexualize things over text.
Edit* idk why the screenshot isn’t uploading so I’ll just write it out how it’s written on text:
ME: “make sure to save the pics I sent you otherwise they’ll get lost in our msgs 😂”
GIRL: “I’m steps ahead of you bby 💕 😇 all your pics deserve a spot in my camera roll”
ME: “haha am I that special? 😏”
GIRL: “maybeee”
ME: “After I please you down there, that maybe will turn into a yes ;)
GIRL: “Hmm probably not, I’m a big fan of emotional connections so you’d have better luck with something that shows u care”
Again, these texts are after we hooked up. I am super confused by her text and need help with this, please help me out here.
