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when she gives 1 word replies and its going no where, can you take a look at the screenshots and see what I did wrong? when she isnt giving any investment through banter, should I switch to being sexual or would that just cause her to unmatch me? these 2 screenshots took place over a span of 7 days, so the convo wasnt flowing well, she took long to reply and then i double texted a few days later
Im having trouble getting a few girls to engage from the get go. How could I proceed if they give me responses like "Oh" and "Thank you". I used to just respond matching their investment or call them out with "Love the enthusiasm", "Interesting", but it doesn't seem to go anywhere and the lead goes cold until I need to re-initiate with a double text. Often times I'll message a bait open loop but they don't respond like here "How are the other boys treating you on here" or "You may have one or two of my weaknesses" hoping she hooks on the bait but often times she doesn't respond back. So if she doesn't hook onto the open loop bait, how do you proceed? I usually wait 24 hours before double texting and try to give her some time to reply but I could use some guidance on how to proceed with situations like this because out of all my matches, the hotter girls that I'm actually interested in are the ones who are giving me trouble.
I have to admit. The most annoying thing for me is when girls pretend to be interested in you and everything seems to be going fine, but then they start to pretend to have such a busy life all of a sudden where they don't reply to text for a day and ignore your message. We all know no girl who is interested in you will make you wait 24 hours to reply. It's like they don't know how to tell a guy she's not interested. (Exactly how Ghosting came to be right) My problem is I tend to feel butthurt and I don't know how to send a text to assert my boundaries about this in a non-butthurt way. What are ways I can send a final text and just forget about her or something that communicates to her I'm gonna assert my boundaries to show I'm not interested in this behavior and I'm fine with moving on from here on out in a non-butthurt way? The last few girls I was texting I was in the process of Soft Closing, we already exchanged numbers, but in the process of doing the soft close "lets split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio sometime soon" She gave me some shit about "I dont feel okay meeting you at your place so dont mind me" so I just hit her with "Its cool we can meet at a bar nearby first" and she didn't reply for 24 hours, so I double texted her with "If you're not interested just be honest so I can stop trying. I'll understand" Then she replies IMMEDIATELY, how convenient seeing as she's supposed to be so busy right? with "I'm busy these days. Sorry for not replying fast enough. You have your work. I have my work. Thought you would understand" She ignored for a whole day but responds immediately with this "busy excuse" when I double text her. What would you say next to assert boundaries in a non butthurt way after this? I tend to lose interest in girls who pull this type of behavior but I always feel like I hold on because they could actually be cool if we met in real life. And I used "And the award for best texter goes to..." line on another chick after she didn't reply for a day and she said: "Goes to you. Because you always text me even though I don't reply to you." Worth another shot trying?
My biggest issue with my text game is I am never sure of the direction for my next move to take the conversation in. I always have the end goal in mind which is setting up a date... But in between, I'm not sure if what I am sending is correct like should I soft close now or is it too soon? Should I banter more? DHV? Qualify her on things she does and talk about traveling? Ask her if she had any boyfriends before and why they broke up with her? Compliance test so I can sexualize the conversation with oral orgasms? I have 2 screenshots here with 2 hotties that I really wanted to close but I have a feeling I messed up already. This first one when she says "oh my im scared" I thought of so many things I could say but I just went with DHV reply "scared of a tall handsome gentleman with a cute american accent?" she gives me an IOI saying I am a confident person so I just accepted that frame and said "Thanks" and then tried to get her to qualify her on wanting a dominant confident man but then she says she doesnt know what to say. So at this point I was kinda stuck and didnt know what to do so I just went for the soft close, but maybe its too soon? Whats your opinion about these text exchange and what would you have said instead? As long as she is keen on meeting at this point when I soft close, should I just continue with "Perfect! Lets split a bottle of wine on my romantic patio" and then get her to say "Yes" again and then continue with "Whats your schedule like?" and see if she comes up with any objections? If she says anything other than yes, such as "Maybe" or "Soon" do you still just assume she wants to meet at your place until she specifically says she says she doesnt want to meet at my room then suggest a bar nearby my house? Or do you figure out why she is saying Maybe or Soon instead of a hard yes? Is it better asking her "When are you free?" or "I'm free Tuesday night and Friday night"? And the 2nd one, I am starting to lose interest in even though she was the one to ask me to meet her (but she was with a friend...so I tried to set up the next day), I originally was interested in her last week, and would still meet up with her if shes keen, but the fact that she finally replied to me after triple texting her and my re^initiation text "Are you still alive" and then I sent "Ah, I Was waiting for you to message me" and she didn't reply back... Kinda annoys me now and I don't feel like chasing so its making me want to drop her but I feel like if I say to her "Look. I dont like it when people dont respect my time. If you're not interested you can just tell me now, its cool" but I feel like that sounds too butthurt?? so would saying that actually do anything positive for me in the sense that she will actually respect my time and meet me or would it be better to just ghost her and move on?