Hi Top G, Your comment made me wonder and the thing you said about missing the context of cold approach + date kinda struck me.
I actually think this is where I went wrong because during both of these events I fucked up the context by letting the convo slip away to random subjects rather than making it purely or majorly about hooking up etc.
Thanks for the insight.
Hi Indian PE , appreciate the response man.
I am pretty sure I didn't come around as desperate.
When I analysed the incident later after reading PWF Community user Top G's comment on my post, I realised that the context setting during the cold approach and during the date was not very strong.
The whole discussion became about job/career etc with very little context of hooking up etc.
Also, there were 2 massive red flags that I realized later. One, when I hugged her before the date, she gave me that half assed sideways hug and second she was very shabbily dressed when she came outside to meet me (even by the instant meetup standards).
These 2 red flags were indications that was she was not seriously sexually available at that point which I overlooked at that moment.
During the cold approach, I screen girls for sexual availablity and this girl gave me evidence that she is sexually available (she was very comfortable with prolonged hand holding and also pressed my hand while we parted) and this is why I pushed her for the date the very next day.
But the next day when she agreed for an instant date, I now realise that she was under a bit of stress due to her job/career situation.
I should have :
1.Read the red flags properly.
2.Context setting during the cold approach and date should have been clearly only sexual.
When I met resistance during escalating, I am sure I was a bit surprised but didn't come as sad/angry/desperate etc.
I saved all those emotions for later 🤣
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
@Indian PE
Hey Alex/Indian PE , This is the exact message I am getting - "Unable to select media due to denied permissions".
This is such a no BS practical advice.
Loved it and I need to work on the 3rd item.
Happy to hear that you are matching up with total hotties.
I am intrigued about what kinda minor tweaks you did that your matches improved drastically.
I am sorry but I couldn't find these videos at all after a lot of searching.
Pls share the link or some other resources
BTW, The one liner was situational.
I texted her "The clouds went nuts last night" as it rained heavily the night before.
Thanks for the insights.
I would like to know what do you mean by emo/intellectual investment?
And how can I build it ?
What would be a good approach to explain this to her or convince her to allow me to do this.