The Ultimate Key To Fast Growth In Game
Want to learn faster? Tired of small bursts of improvement followed by long plateaus? Fed up with information overload and walking around in confusion? Been there, done that. Wait... No, I haven't, actually. When I started going out I knew I would have an initial pain period, so I swallowed by damn pride and took 3 months of instant blowouts for 6 hours/day, about 90 days straight. But after 3 months I finally reached a level where I start to understand closing a bit. And since then I've grown more for every month of going out than 99.99% of guys growth per year. To be honest I've grown more every single WEEK than most guys do per year. And the reason for this hasn't been what conventional pickup advice tells you. Three Mistakes Of Getting Good At Game Mistake #1: Not celebrating others' success Here's the thing man... When I first met Ahmed Saab I was fucking butthurt because me and my boys introduced HIM to game and he was instantly outperforming all of us. We felt so cucked. We randomly found him in a nightclub and we could tell this guy had something very special about him. Next thing we knew, we became main wings and went out almost every night for a year. I was seen as very good already. And then this motherfucker sleeps with 9 girls in his FIRST 10 DAYS of game. I was fucking pissed even though I tried my best at not showing it. This did nothing good for my game. Which I quickly came to terms with. So, instead, I asked myself "What can I learn from this beast of a man?" And when I started asking myself these kinds of questions I got great answers. At first, when I was a butthurt little soyboy, I said to myself "It's not fair, it's so easy for him blablabla". But when I started observing and analyzing I found so many golden nuggets that improved my game. Mastery level usage of tonality Incredible facial expressions Pushing through fear no matter what (Ahmed used to hold my hand when approaching because I force him to approach the most fucked up sets I could find. And he ALWAYS did it no matter how scary it was, and then he'd almost always pull off some amazing shit.) And much, much more. Something that's extremely common in this community is the lack of humilty. People get mad when others succeed. What you need to understand is that there's plenty of fish in the sea. Do you think Jeff Bezos get butthurt when Elon Musk makes money? Of course not, they have an abundance mindset. Don't start hating on guys who do better, be happy you found someone who's doing well and learn from them. Now, me and Ahmed are extremely different, so I couldn't do everything exactly like him, but I took an honest look at his game and a took what I could use, and discarded the rest. Not learning from others because they don't game exactly the way you do is just dumb. Which leads me to my next point... Mistake #2: Being narrow minded and stubborn aka commitment bias This is common not just in PUA but in all areas of self-help. Take Vegans for example (not all vegans are this way, just example). Some start a vegan diet to lose weight. After months of this they haven't lost weight. But they've told everyone about it, has begun hanging out with other vegans, and has INVESTED emotionally, invested reputation and invested money into veganism. Now they forget the outcome they were looking for and become married to the vehicle that was gonna get them to their destination. The result? Narrow-minded, stubborn and suboptimal vehicle to reach the destination. Same thing in game. I do NOT only learn from one source. I study copywriting (which Pierre introduced me to), I study Osho, I study bioenergetics, I study "natural game", I study technical game. Here's an example: Me and Pierre used to dismiss explicit DHV. We used to think that the only DHV worthwhile was to: Dominate socially - not talk about being a leader Have multiple girls chasing you - not talk about pre-selection Show compassion for old people, children, friends, etc - not talk about being a protector of loved ones We had both tried very very very extensively to use DHV embedding in our game but never made it work. What DID work was to simply tell stories, joke, tease etc and we would simply lead and dominate the group, have several girls showing interest, and everyone can see us including everyone in the group. Enter the David.... Then we met David Swift and he showed us how to use extremely overt, blatant and over-the-top DHV. ...and it's now become one of our most powerful tools in game. Never, EVER, have such a big ego that you're going to dismiss something because you've become invested in a certain way of doing something. Both me and Pierre have publicly dismissed embedding DHV. Now we use it and recommend it publicly. Everyone can learn and evolve, don't be stubborn. Focus more on your own blind spots and logical fallacies than others. THAT'S how you get good and KEEP GETTING BETTER. Not by dismissing other ways of doing things. Where would I be if I dismissed Ahmed's natural charisma and David's DHV style? Answer: Not even close to as good as I am today. I have met some people along the way who do NOT embody this mindset however. People who instantly dismiss, deny and deflect all proof of results when it doesn't fit into their own frame of reality. I've even met guys who will go out of their way to sabotage for me and our crew because they've been butthurt about our success. Not uncommon at all actually. And the result? Girls will ALWAYS pick up on this. Focus on learning and improving, not competing. When you focus on being "better" than other it's just weak and unattractive. Focus on contribution, not on competition. You know when a girl tells you about the guy you shouldn't "worry" about? And then you start talking about him constantly? And then she sleeps with him? Yeah, there's a reason that happens. Winners focus on winning, learning, growing. Not on what other guys are doing (aside from the actual learning aspect). I learn from ALL sources and do not, ever, dismiss new stuff before giving it an honest chance. Which brings me to my last point... Mistake #3: Thinking you've understood something when you haven't and dismissing it before making it work My favorite PUA phenomenon. People quickly 'pick a side' on this community. "I'm into natural game" "I like Mystery Method" "RSDTyler is a God" "I'm into Tim Ray and Viking Lifestyle's Fuckboy Frame" WHAT THE FUCK EVER Shut up man. Seriously. All styles work. All of them. Some are more efficient, some are less efficient. Some work a bit better for some people, personalities play a part in this too. But saying something doesn't work because it didn't work for YOU is just fucking dumb. I saw someone comment that PWF texting 'didn't work'. Nah man, YOU didn't work. UMP doesn't "work" or "not work". You are the one supposed to WORK THE METHOD. Not the other way around. Our shit is thoroughly proven to: Get guys laid consistently with girls out of their league (irrefutable) Make guys very, VERY confident in ALL social situations (irrefutable) Make guys more successful at networking, making friends and meeting people in general (irrefutable) But guess what? So are many, many, other style of game too! We have take a FUCKLOAD of concepts from Mystery, RSD, David Buss, PWF, SwinggCat, natural friends, copywriting legends, sales teachers (Jordan Belfort being one of Pierre's favourite people to learn from), NLP, hypnosis, etc etc etc. if we meet someone who's getting results doing something and we try to replicate it but it doesn't work we do NOT dismiss the method. We humble ourselves and ask "How can we apply this better?" So, what's the secret to success you ask? Simple. A humble yet aggressive growth mindset.