Yeah I just took it as a bad sign that she went from replying within an hour every time to not messaging me for over 2 days. It came across to me like a subtle way to drop out of the conversation but maybe I'm misreading it. I'll wait till next week and send a follow up. Thanks Alex
I would go back with something a little teasing like “I’ll let you off this time 😉 ...” Or “Apology accepted...” and then move the topic on using a question or questioning statement (“I wonder...”). You could also go down the “work stressing you out?” “Sounds like you could use some stress relief” line
Disclaimer: beginner here. I’d say your suggested responses seem a bit too long and over-invested. She’s fairly low investment so far so I wouldn’t be sending a long message and DEFINITELY wouldn’t be trying to number close yet. It doesn’t seem like she is into the cult banter so far unfortunately (no haha or emojis or exclamation marks and a very short message). So ideally you’d move onto a different topic or could write something short and teasing like “...I’ll believe you” or “yeah right” but I don’t get the sense that she’d bite on that. If you can think of a smooth way to move on then that might be your best bet
Disclaimer: beginner here. Depends on the tone of the interaction so far and your bumble profile. If it’s been pretty flirty and sexual so far a response like “yes, the dirty ones” would be what I would go for. If it’s been less flirty/sexual, then maybe “yes, the romantic ones”. From what I understand you want to keep it short, confident and completely unapologetic. A “yes” might be a little too short and not a perfect fit but could also work, just don’t double text or send anything too long winded
Thanks for the help Alex. I was just checking to see there weren’t any obvious mistakes here. I’ll make sure I single soft close in future and see if it works better
So for each of these when they send a positive response to the idea of a date should I just go back with “great shoot me your number” or something like that?
A similar issue with this one, she did eventually respond but not with the same level of interest as before. I wonder if it’s something to do with the pace/timing of my closing
You could set it up in a way that she’s waiting (hopefully excitedly) for you to reinitiate then. Something like “hope you feel better soon, I’ll text you to set up another date” or you could try to start setting the plans now “When are you free next week?” “Are you free next weekend?”
Still a beginner here but I would make sure you don’t come across as apologetic in any way, but also don’t get too defensive. I would go with something along the lines of “Is knowing what I want weird?”