Did you meet your IRL male friends through girls?
In most places I've been I've met my male friends through dating, for example that a girlfriend or casual relatinoship has allowed me to meet other couples. This is a pretty good way of meeting male friends as the fact that they are in a girls friend circle usually mean they are high value. I know that sounds shallow, but I just can't handle any more lazy gamer friends. But nowadays I'm in a many years relationship (RIP) in a country I don't know many people. but my GF doesn't want me to join her friends circle. If I bring it up she thinks its weird and tries to shame me for not having friends. This is my main reason for plotting to break up with her when I'm ready, as I really do think that it's a vital part of a relationship. The other less rational and more emotional thing is that there has been some incidents where her (female) friends are treating me like the 3rd wheel which is surprisingly hurtful. I'm feeling like I'm the unpopular loser who's trying to fit in with the cool people, even though if I had been single I would be with girls way hotter than them. I don't even understand why her friends acted that way. It could be that it's all my GF's fault, that they are just picking up on the vibe that she started, but it hurts me to think that it's also possible they think I'm lame. Ofc reading this thread you'll probably assume that I've come off as super desperate and clingy, but quite the opposite I feel like I've played my cards perfectly.