First ever bar date - Fail LR
Fucked up this date a couple weeks ago, but I think there's some value in the texting here This one is from two weeks ago. She liked my catfish pic on hinge. I don't own a motorcycle currently. Some good banter to start with. Seed the date and she asks about the motorcycle. Pass that situation by telling her it's out of commission. Then she throws another shit test at me out of nowhere. "You talk a big game huh" to which I just say "I don't talk, I do". This was a critical point in the interaction as I knew I had sealed the date with her by passing the shit test. Some more bantering on test. I can tell we might have good chemistry. I set the date but right before I do she asks me if I wanna come over to hers and play off the shit test/objection instead of asking for address. Cos she was pretty close to me. Not sure if this was the best decision. Curious to hear your thoughts Day of the date. I walk over to the bar, meet her there. She looks better than her pics. I'm definitely attracted. I let go of all nervousness and anxiety within a min or so. We are vibing well. My in person game is dog shit so I don't really do any verbal escalation but I do ask lots of open ended questions and answer mine passionately, giving off a lot of attractive energy and I can feel it. When it was time to leave, she felt like puking so I grabbed her hand and led her to the bathroom after which she said she didn't have to puke (???) and then hugged me and kissed me on the cheek. Then I led her to her car. Seeded smoking weed at my place. Got back to mine, vibed a little, she was sitting on the edge of the bed and we were smoking. She said she was gonna leave after one joint and I didn't really do enough physical escalation. Never brought up any sexual topics either. When she said she was leaving I told her I'll walk her to her car. Both leaned to kiss when we got there. I pulled back first. 5 secs later I went for another one. This time she pulled back. After that she opened her car door, and I cheekily wanted to tease her with a 3rd kiss so I went around the door and she says "Why are you being weird" and I say "What" and slap her ass playfully as she kinda slams her door and drives off. 1 hr later I get the last text on hinge. Curious to hear what you guys think