Comments by Mike Lemonsmasher

I would like to finally submit my testimonial.

I've always been almost handicapped with online dating in general, I've maybe been able to go out with 3 people over my 5 years of trying, and they were all more or less terrible experiences. I wasn't attracting quality women and on top of that when I did my socially uncalibrated and needy texting was putting them off if I did somehow manage to match with ''a good one''. I'm not bad looking IRL, but my dating pool was incredibly small and I was only limiting myself severely.

People rely increasingly on online dating. And during the pandemic, I had no opportunity to meet women IRL. I felt like I lost control of my life and was debating just getting back with my very mentally ill ex girlfriend and marrying her cause I felt like ''I'd never get a better one''.

I was signed up for Bumble, POF, and Match and getting NO high quality matches. I also ranted about some fast food chicken sandwich to a girl after which she stopped replying (seriously) and realized something had to change and I needed help.

I started watching Alex's videos and everything started to make sense, I spent a few weeks going over all of his content. You don't have to agree with everything he says or follow some magic formula, I found Alex took a theoretical approach to things and technical as well, which really helped me adapt his work to my own goals and objectives. I quickly realized my profiles were hot garbage and my texting as well. Slowly I started taking new pictures with help of my friends and building enough photos to make a good profile.

The quality and numbers of my matches shot up instantly. I started with hinge and got about maybe 4 likes a week, but many of these were interesting, attractive girls. I started feeling like I've regained control of my life. I realized that my texting was still awful though and I was showing needyness on my texts.

I signed up for the product and read through it all. I joined the facebook group and the group chat and would post of my texts. texts that I thought were perfectly fine were deconstructed by members as being failures (showing needyness, too much availabilty, poor closing) it was a brutal but necessary experience. One gripe I have is I wish the group (particulalry the chat) had more of a moderator presence. It makes us look bad if weirdos get to say anything they want.

Anyway, eventually I got things to a better point, where I could match and meet up with women once at least once a month. Attractive women. Note that I'm not super keen on just hooking up, but I could have hooked up a lot if I wanted to, and a lot especialyl if I lowered my standards. I dated a girl for a month or two, she gave amazing blowjobs and I would tie her up and force orgasms out of her. Just being immersed in the group helped me accept that being a red blooded sexual male was OK and nothing to be ashamed about, which a lot of men have problems with these days.

Fast forward to today, I've made even more improvements to my profile. I've gotten over 150 likes in my first month of opening my Tinder profile after meticulously making tweeks from everything I've learned over the past 4 months. I've totally regained control of my dating life and my happiness in general. I've been performing better at work because of my new optimism and got a promotion (sounds bullshit, but its real). I'm texting 4 beautiful women now. My game still needs work, but I have a foundation to work off of. Yesterday I went for a walk with a girl who was incredibly beautiful and we're hanging out again. Recently very severe lockdown measures have really killed my opportunities, but I have no doubt things will keep improving and once lockdown is over, things should be great. I find myself looking forward to the years ahead, especially as I'm doing long term things to increase my SMV even further.

Anyway alex, thank you. You honestly helped me regain control of my life.

Thanks. I really appreciate it. I think it's more of a case of me trying to get over the good times with my ex by trying to 1up that experience. I've thought about it and discussed it a lot with others and I need to just chill out and well avoid feeling the need to do that. I've been thinking about it and my experiences with my ex were overly hyped in my mind anyway. Just a matter of taking things slower with women.

Don't think I'm into open relationships although I've considered it a lot in the past. I think I'd be happy to have a great gf, talking to a few potentials now, already practicing taking things slower romantically.

Also, man, you helped me get my life back in control in general. I went from being unable to pulling girls online in years to being able to pull whenever I feel like it (almost). I'll write a testimonial at some point

Thanks Alex, I always appreciate your angle on things.

I think you got it. It varies between the girls but both elements are the same. Girl 2 and 3 it was particularly bad for item #2 on my part. I'd have her over, cook for her, talk about deep shit all the time. Take her out skating, everything. I guess I like the ''girlfriend'' experience but I'm not actually available for a relationship. In truth I thought I was being nice doing this but I guess in reality I'm leading them on because I didn't want a relationship with either.

Girl #1 I ignored pretty severe red flags cause I was idealizing her.

I don't know, I feel like I'm not into hookups, but also not into relationships. I like nurturing and treating women well and cooking for them and giving them crazy orgasms and shit, but I fear the idea of an actual relationship, especially since my experience with girl #1.

I think what I need to do is not give up on seeing girls, but like not make it my priority and work more on my inner game and just take things chill, and either learn how to keep girls in the FWB category without nurturing too much, or just get a gf again.

thanks for the advice alex, I may very well try hypnotherapy and ask my psych about EMDR.

I agree with you however, people in Canada are very submissive to what the rules are, much more than USA and I got kind of a straight edge vibe from, so I figured I'd have more chances if I saw her in person first

Thanks though, I think you're right on the size thing too

She ended up cancelling and seemingly getting cold feet. I tried for the past 2 days submitting the text images to my PC to censor the names (and then post them here) with no luck, google is freezing them in the outbox, which is why I took so long to reply. I'm going to try and censor them on my phone and make a post seperately to figure out where I went wrong.

I also had a video call tonight with another girl to try and set up a lay at my place and it was lame, and she ended up being like 40 pounds heavier than her pics and quite boring. Hopefully I'll get something promising soon.

let us know how it goes

Yikes man, I'm gonna give it to you straight. This is all the things NOT to do. You aren't following the text game theory, as alex says in his videos, it should be a dance. This is just you pushing and pushing which creates the impression that you are needy and have low self worth, whether real or not.

You also said you wanted her as a GF without seemingly knowing her and also you haven't seemed to change her mind after the sugar baby post (joke or not, there's truth in every joke and humour gives good indications of someones true nature IMO) I may be reaching too far, but there are some signs of some serious inner game problems.

edit: and oh man an only fans? I didn't see that... at best this girl wants your attention and at worst your money.

That's a good point. and yeah! Since this post and pouring over the guides I'm getting some pretty promising results over text so far. I got like 4 girls responding quickly and 3 are talking sexual with me and 1 probable date coming up

Yeah man, I've been pouring over your guides and applying it and I've already gotten like 4 girls talking sexually or wanting to meet up. I'm not really looking for a rotation of hookups right now but the results are definitely there. I threw in "looking at kinky stuff to buy on amazon today" after some DHVs and it's gotten some pulls.

I didn't say sorry but I think you mean when I said I was called out, yeah I coulda held frame better. I've tweaked a lot since this convo with the advice here and have been sexually bantering 2 girls. For sure I took the "smooth, easy, safe" road and paid the price.

Thank you, makes sense.