Blueprint 2.0 Inner Game Assignment - Developing Abundance Mindset and becoming Outcome Independent
Hey guys, I'm on Chapter 10 - Inner game. As the chapter prescribes, I've self-assessed where I am on the six critical mindsets for a solid inner game. Here's the breakdown: Abundance vs Scarcity Mindset: 3/6 (weakest) High-Value attitude: 4/6 (I slip up with some low or suboptimal value texts here and there, but I'm very self aware and continuously improve here) Accept that women love sex: 6/6 (strongest) Non-judgmental / No Slut shaming: 4/6 (I struggle with this one because I care about women's body count when I consider them for a serious LTR; otherwise I don't care) Playing to win: 4/6 (room for improvement, could be a 5/6) Focus on what I can control: 6/6 (I'm short but well groomed, jacked, got money, nice house, nice car, every good thing I have in life I've achieved through my efforts and sacrifice) Why I believe that I struggle with the abundance mindset: I have always been very temperamental, primarily due to genetics (dad very prone to anger, mom very prone to depression). My parents also divorced when I was little; my dad did a lot of stuff without me that I wish he would have included me on, I grew up as a geeky/nerdy guy, lost virginity at 19, and overall have always struggled with FOMO. Historically, when I've become emotionally involved with a woman, I've also been jealous or judgmental of some of her previous experiences. This isn't an issue with girls I've been casual with, only girls I've been in serious relationships with or girls I categorized as relationship material. The other issue in the abundance mindset aspect is a massive fear of rejection and getting hurt feelings. I have a general fear/pain in situations where I feel that I'm being left out. I think this stems from what I mentioned earlier about my childhood and growing up as a virgin geek. I'm also not originally from the US so every now and then I feel out of place. Ironically, when I go back to Colombia to visit, I also feel out of place. Basically, I don't feel like I really belong anywhere, there really isn't a place I can call home. Bringing it back full circle on my temperament, I've made vast improvements over the years. I also recently read Mike Mark Manson's "The Subtle Art of not giving a Fuck" and it was both a hilarious read and extremely illuminating. I learned to give less fucks about things (getting triggered by shit that doesn't matter). Nevertheless, it's very difficult to control pain and/or anger when it has to do with women. Ultimately, I think the "feeling left out" thing is what really hurts me the most, both emotionally and in overcoming my fears. Some things I think I can do to help me here 1) Re-read Manson's book to discover new insights or reinforce those that I learned. Maybe see if I can come up with some assignments based on lessons learned from the book 2) Meditate. I used to meditate to lower my stress, and it fucking worked. So I don't know I fucking stopped 3) Jump on a Speed Dating stream for practice (I actually tried when Rosario was the guest but dumbass Destiny decided to insult her and she peaced out lol) Any thoughts? avilench . @Indian PE