Whats up guys my first post here
So I was just texting with this girl, and she agreed to meet. I asked for her number and she said that she doesn’t want to give her number and asked for mine. I gave her my number but she didn’t text me. After three days, I hit her up with the takeaway “if you’re too shy I’d understand.”
She said you will only get my number after our first date. I said I’m not here to be your text buddy I want to move things forward.
She than said : “okay give me your Telegram”
And I said “say please”
She got offended and became emotional. and for sure I don’t wanna meet up with a girl who doesn’t even shows a little bit of respect and politeness.
So I lost my date, but what can I do better next time?
Thanks guys
398 Posts (+1.3K), 16K Cmts (+5.3K)
Not all girls will respond the same way to some texts. When you have a girl who gets this emotional for a simple "Say please", then she probably would have been a headache to deal with in person anyway
4 Posts (+5), 111 Cmts (+49)
It's definitely sketchy that she was so hesitant about giving her number. I'm not sure she was actually interested in meeting up. Because even if you gave her your number and then she texted you, you would know her number once you recieved the text. So she may have been playing like she was interested in meeting up but actually not. Either way, always have her give you her number first. You never want to leave it up to the girl to be the first one to text because she may forget or be hesitant.
Idk this is a weird one, maybe avilench . or Indian PE can help out.
2 Posts (+1), 4 Cmts (+1)
Yeah I agree, but I didn’t want to come off as a needy guy pushing multiple time to give her number first. But I did mention that I am not her textbuddy and want to move things forward.
398 Posts (+1.3K), 16K Cmts (+5.3K)
Not really weird. but that's just common pua practice to do anyway. So, continue taking the girl's number
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When she said she will give you her number after the date, i would have just texted "great! whats ur schedule looking like this week?" and just go and meet up with her instead of arguing aboutnot wanting to be her texting buddy etc
Really the only texting advice i can give you is demonstrate your value, get her invested, dont be reactive, dont use emojis and move things towards the meet up at all times. Tho tbh if a girl doesnt even wanna give you her number.. I mean thats just weird like why? She could have just been a time waster
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The thing is she lives like an hour away from me, doesn’t have a car so I had to pick her up. Also she barely checks the app. So if we agreed to meet up and than she flakes, that would have been fucked up, because I can’t contact her or call her.
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If she was gonna flake then even if you call or text her via phone she probably wont pick up/respond anyway
Could have said "I'll drive an hour so you better not flake othervise u'll get a spanking". It kinda sexualizes the convo + lets her know she shouldnt flake. After a text like that any decent person would at least tell you a few hours before if she will be flaking