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Why some girls go cold and distant themselves after sexualizing with them either in person or over the phone. Like the vibe changes and it feels like they’re guilty eventho you make it clear that you don’t judge etc..
depends on a few things. eg the girl herself, and the smoothness of your escalation
to the second point, you cant just go in guns blazing. you may hit the ocassional home run out of 100, and w them it'll be a quick close, but youll be burning alot of leads. you have to be smoother, gradual, and ideally the escalation should make sense. eg you - 'hey what are you up to', her - 'just watching my show, hbu', you - 'ah, I bet you'd rather hanging w a dominant handsome guy who can spank the brat out of you and give you multiple oral orgasms'. like, what
I exagerrated the above, but look around the forums and youll see its somewhat common. the escalations need to be relevant. try to avoid copy paste
doesnt matter if you say you dont judge. they only care if you judge if they like you, and pushy/repeated overescalation is a surefire way to turn them off
another reason is the girl's personality herself. some girls are just not as open to escalation esp via text. doesn't mean you cant, but it means you'll have to be especially calibrated w them. and perhaps maybe even leave the escalation for the date and just leave the text vibe at generally flirty and such. every girl is diff and you have to adjust accordingly. try to read them as best you can
in general, start slow and ramp up. looks for signs of reciprocation. if the girl resists, back off. if the girl accepts it, you have a green light and can consider whether to notch it top a bit. if the girl accepts and pushes the escalation further, consider it a double green light
100 % agreed
Thanks guys for the reply. But I don’t think rushing into escalation is an issue for me. I always test the waters and proceed accordingly and the girls do enjoy it, even I purposely make them invest by asking me to go on and have them involved too.
I’ve noticed this happened many times, it’s like a pattern. What else could there be, is it something psychological in girls and what’s the best way to approach it. Do you guys think by being open about it and talk it out helps, like it shows emotional intelligence and creates more trust?
Some girls are just not into it as much as other ones. Check out this video I made on sexualization, it breaks everything down
https://youtu.be/9kP0weye1RE
I'm with the OP, I've noticed this a lot too. Not sure why it happens. Good Question to ask
