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How to proceed here?
E: New texts
Me: “When did I say anything like that”
Her: “you didn’t it’s not you”
Me: “If you wear a short skirt I promise not to ghost”
Her: “I have a lot of cute ones”
This one is obviously a case of raising concerns based on bad prior experience. Your job here is to simply put doubt to the assumption being made about you. You’re not one of the past dudes that did the damage, so it’s not fair for you to get labeled like one of them.
“When did you see me say any of that”
Agreed but seems like saying that, essentially for the second time, is me way over qualifying myself. What do you think?
Over qualifying yourself would be to say “no, I’d never do that to you....blah...” This isn’t qualifying yourself since you kinda have to address this concern. It’s frustrating, I know bro, especially since it was brought up before, but it happens. This time you’re not gonna be qualifying yourself because a false assumption was made against you, so you dismantle it and get your apology (usually).
“So instead of just being upfront by asking, you jumped to your own conclusions. Then ghosted/avoided. All things you say you hate done to you. Now that’s a major red flag.”
Now we do a massive call out and disqualify. Flipping the script.
“And you made this assumption based on what exactly”
Added some new texts to OP. Any suggestions?
