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Julien Edel

How often do you swap out your pictures in your profile? How long did it take you to have a decent profile?

avilench .

It didn't take me long to start getting results on Tinder (although it was much easier back then ) . As I would get better pics, I would swap old ones out and my profile would improve. I don't have a definitive time frame of how often I do this, it is simply when a better picture emerges.

Luke Foster

Is there any way to show that you respect yourself when she is being bitchy besides straight up leaving?

avilench .

I don't agree with the premise of the question, since in my opinion a guy who truly respects himself and is not just compensating for insecurities wouldn't need 'to show " it to anyone. That being said, I would personally just call out her behavior in a none butthurt way "Do the rest of your Tinder dates actually put up with this? "

C C

I'm 39 but I'm always told I look like I'm in my mid late 20's. Should I lie about my age on dating apps

avilench .

The choice is yours. if your goal is to bang as many chicks as possible than late 20th or early 30th might be your best bet. If you are looking for something more serious, than I recommend keeping it honest.

Phil R

What is your game plan when a girl comes to your place for a wine date? From drinking wine to throwing her onto your bed.
How do you avoid going to her place? I had a girl drive two hours to my place, the date went well. She suggested at the end that I come visit her but I don't want to drive that far.
Can you talk about sex? How to make her orgasm more often, techniques, etc.

avilench .

Oh man, this is a very broad question. Personally, I am not a fan of rigid "plans". I don't have a step by step escalation method that I adhere to or anything like that. I know some guys do, but for me that ruins the fun of meeting girls. That being said, there are certain "best practices" that I usually follow. First of, I clean up my place and minimize the amount of shit laying on the floor. Than, I turn on a chill play list on my laptop ( either reggae tone or light EDM) . Than, I dim the lights so as to maximize the romance in the air.
When the girl is over, a big part of how fast I escalate would depend on her body language. If a girl is veary rigid and seems nervous, than I will keep a little distance at first . Let her finish a drink or two and wait for her to get comfortable before escalating. On the other hand, if a girl seems super DTF right off the bat than I will start escalating within a minute or two (I also break this down in excruciating detail in my product ).
I usually don't . If a girl comes to my place and we have a good time, I will not object to going to hers. Also, there has been numerous situations where the first date went down at the chick's place. I went over there and bang them all the same .
I am super shy bro. But, in all seriousness this is a very lengthy topic that has been written about to death. I recommend either "The sex god methods" by Daniel Rose or of course my Tinder product, which contains a 20 plus page bonus chapter on this.

Matt J

What do you say if she asks you first "What are you looking for on Tinder?" Is it better to get this question out of the way and ask her first? And what do you say if she responds with "Friends"

avilench .

it depends on the vibe you are getting from the girl. "Meet a cool girl I have chemistry with. Maybe break my multiple orgasms record." usually works pretty good for me . I used to ask girls this question a lot, but have stopped in the past year or so .
If a girl replies with "Friends" , I would probably troll her a bit and say "Sounds exciting" .

Mike Miller

How do you deal with girls that are acting like total bitches on the first date? (I’m assuming they are pretty much showing low interest upon meeting up) . This past Friday night I had a terrible date with this chick that did the following:

She asked me “why did you pick this place?” implying she didn’t like it.
I told her I used to rock climb but stopped cause I got injured. So a few min later she tells me “when you mentioned you used to rock climb I was thinking you might be good for my friend”... clearly this is some form of shit test and I had no idea how to handle it. I called it out and she said “but when you said you were injured I figured it’s ok”. Pretty sure I bombed.
At some point we were talking about clothes and she mentioned that she was wearing leggings and she touched them... I went to touch them too and she slapped my hand lol
1 1/2 hours in she started texting on her phone for 1 -2 min at a time,
At the end I asked her if she wanted to have wine at my place and she got offended, saying “I’m not going to your place”. I said why not, there are no expectations” and she just wasn’t down.
I realized there was no chance with her so I texted her yesterday asking her to set me up with her friend and she asked me if I’m desperate and then later said if I thought she was being serious about the friend that I’m a joke.

Clearly the date was an utter failure and I take full responsibility for it. So how do I handle these situations better and should I be screening out girls like this or did I just bomb the date? She was being difficult via texts from the get go, not wanting to meet near me (as if it was too much for her to invest). Should I have never gone on a date with a girl like that? Her overall vibe was very pompous and full of it.

Aside from this chick, I struggle tremendously on first dates. My ability to get a girl home is around 10 - 15% and most of my first dates go nowhere... I find that if the girl is into me I’m not that attracted to her so I just lose interest or many times girls I find attractive act very stiff and reserved (like the one from Friday night, except never as bad as her, she was the worst by far).

I tend to be in my head and don’t know how to fix this. Any help please. I’m finding myself not wanting to go on dates anymore cause it’s very frustrating and expensive after a while .

Everyone makes closing on dates sound so easy that I feel like there is something wrong with me sometimes.

avilench .

Yes, this sounds like a girl who should've been screened out over text. If she was being difficult from the start and refused to meet at the bar near your place than the date shouldn't have happened in the first place.
Personally, I screen by making sexual innuendos and/or inviting the girls straight to my place for wine. This will screen out the annoying prudes majority of the time. However, once in a while one will slip though the crack. If a girl is being purposely combative I will either troll her or directly call out her behavior. I definitely wouldn't bother wasting 2 hours of my time ignoring the elephant in the room.
In terms of your low closing ratio, I highly recommend that you start screening the girls for being DTF over text and than invite them straight to your place. That will help your mind reset than, you can start going on the more "challenging" dates .

Mike Miller

Thanks man, very solid advice. I’ve tried inviting girls over but I noticed most of the girls I match with on tinder/bumble/hinge seem to be looking for something serious or are just rigid, not dtf.

I will implement and report back.

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Russell Wang

Is any of these pictures usable for tinder/bumble/etc? Thanks.

avilench .

Yes, I like the one on the top of the mountain, the one when you in your hat looking into the ocean, the DJ one, and the one you are laying by the tree.

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Mike Miller

She asked me “why did you pick this place?” implying she didn’t like it.
I told her I used to rock climb but stopped cause I got injured. So a few min later she tells me “when you mentioned you used to rock climb I was thinking you might be good for my friend”... clearly this is some form of shit test and I had no idea how to handle it. I called it out and she said “but when you said you were injured I figured it’s ok”. Pretty sure I bombed.
At some point we were talking about clothes and she mentioned that she was wearing leggings and she touched them... I went to touch them too and she slapped my hand lol
1 1/2 hours in she started texting on her phone for 1 -2 min at a time,
At the end I asked her if she wanted to have wine at my place and she got offended, saying “I’m not going to your place”. I said why not, there are no expectations” and she just wasn’t down.
I realized there was no chance with her so I texted her yesterday asking her to set me up with her friend and she asked me if I’m desperate and then later said if I thought she was being serious about the friend that I’m a joke.

I tend to be in my head and don’t know how to fix this. Any help please. I’m finding myself not wanting to go on dates anymore cause it’s very frustrating and expensive after a while .

Everyone makes closing on dates sound so easy that I feel like there is something wrong with me sometimes.

avilench .

Mike Miller

I will implement and report back.

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