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Hey y'all. I am new to this platform and just looking to improve my game and trying to this one girl I really like to go out with me! But basically is it a good strategy to wait a week or two before texting a girl again to build her interest and ask her out?
This girl had really high initial interest in me and we even went out and made out and all. However, I did not discover you guys sooner and due to my poor texting game I basically made her lose interest just in these past 2 days. I was listening to some of these phony dating coaches and I followed their dumb egotistical advice.
I do not have screenshots of the conversation so I will just write it down. Would hella appreciate @avilench . and @Indian PE help here!
Me: Hey sexy
Her: Heyyy, Sorry I have been soo busy with everything
Me: Oh busy? You haven't been getting into any trouble have you
Her: lol Nahh I have just been busy with work
Me: Uh okay.. ngl I am having a hard time telling if you are still interested in me. Anyways, hey listen I am tryna go to the movies on Thursday, you are more than welcome to join. But you will have to let me know right now so I can book the tickets.
Her: Okk I'll let you know. And yeah I am sorry its just been a busy week
Me: Okay, it seems you got a lot going on, I will just go by myself. Take care :)
Her: Thanks :) Have fun
Me: Also (her name), you are a beautiful girl and you know I want to take out on a date. But if you gonna be stuck and play hard-to-get, I'll say yes to someone else. But I dont want to because I am interested in you.
Her: its ok, :), you're really nice too
Me: I am naughty and nice for a LOT of innocent things, but are you
Her: lol truu, Same
Me: My hips don't lie. I don't doubt you being naughty, now we def know whos been a bad role model for (her two cats)
Her: Lol
In hindsight, after watching your videos, I have realized where I made some mistakes. Help me understand if I am on the right track. I could have responded with "Busy gossiping about my handsomeness with your friends I see" to her initial message. If she still replied with "Nahh I was busy with work", I could have gone ahead and stated "Looks like you could use some stress relief then". That's my bad, I just was not creative and clever enough! I should have never asked her for the movie right after because she was already in non-compliance to a certain extent.
But the latter texts of me saying I'll go by myself and the play hard-to-get messages were from these dating coaches I saw on youtube who kept saying how you must let them know you don't play games or that if she isn't going to act interested then you will cancel plans and not see her and all that. In essence, I guess they might not be wrong, but I do not think this was the right time for me to say those things, I think it was a bit undeserved from her side of things.
After those messages, I could see a drastic change in her responses and response timings. She went from replying quickly to taking a day or more to get back to me. I was thinking if I be a bit witty and flirty I could try to increase her investment but she just responded with "lol".
I do not know how to proceed forward. Should I call her behaviour out by saying "So much enthusiasm" or "Too many words I cant read em all" or should I just let things calm down and text her again after two weeks. Alternatively, I believe in extreme ownership and since my latter messages probably hurt her, I am just gonna apologize and move on and try to improve my game with other girls maybe. Would really appreciate feedback from the experts here!
so one of the keys to Alex's game is not putting up hard single dates when scheduling or ultimatums unless its an absolute last resort.
Your line where about going to the movies was terrible.
You should ask a girl what her schedule is like that week and figure out a day that works for you both. A better example would have been. "hey, have you heard of ABC movie, I am dying to check it out. What nights you free this week? we can hang out after and chat about it at my place."
However a movie is also a terrible choice for a date. Drinks (alcohol or coffee, making dinner for them at your place, splitting a bottle of wine (or just chatting and getting to know each other if you don't drink) or going for a walk before brining her back to your place are the only options you should use if you haven't had sex yet. Once you have sex you can do stuff like activities or dinner / lunch or movies or whatever. Save the movies for your friends.
Don't set ultimatums Its really bad. Also don't say "if you're going to be stuck and play hard to get then I'll say yes to someone else. " That is really really bad texting.
Then after that you get super gamey for no reason. The fact that you still have her chatting is small miracle.
Just ask her what her schedule is like this week and see what days are best for her to hangout. Pick something other then a movie or dinner.
I would just re-engage with the Ryan gosling meme or a regular meme. And yup. The other texts would have been great alternative. But you live, you learn
