Trying to make sense of this failed LR

Had a tinder date at my place, spoiler- I didn't smash. Her body language was closed off the entire time. I felt I did everything I could with pushing and pulling the convo. Trying to tease her. Get her playful. Towards the end I threw this in the convo “oh and I owe you a massage for that long drive here ;)” she replies, “no I’m good thank you =)”. The way she said it felt like a hard rejection.

I just felt if I got closer to her or touched her I would be coming on too strong as she didn’t look or feel very receptive. I was looking for any sign from her, any, to push but nothing. She just sat there with closed off body language the entire time. On other dates, it’s been so easy. I see the girl has good body language, and flirty vibes, so I can escalate easily.

Idk what happened but the vibe on the date just sucked for me. She didn’t do what other girls do which is make strong eye contact, show interest in the convo, throw questions back at me, or even laugh or flirt much. Maybe it’s the age gap? I’m in my 30s she’s 23.

It just sucks because she was probably the most attractive date I’ve had so far. And I just don’t understand why she was so difficult for me. And how do I deal with this is the worst part :/ Just can’t make sense of what happened. Just wish I knew why. Was it me? Her? What? She drove an hour to me lol so I really don’t get it. And this is after agreeing to cancel our boba tea date to meet straight at my place for drinks.