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I've been matching with a lot of low investment girls on Tinder even after moving the convo to Whatsapp. I've been remembering to match her investment levels to force her to invest more. So if she gives me a 1 word answer like "Cool" I'll say "Love your enthusiasm" and she continues with "Really?" then I say "Yes" to match, but then after that, she says nothing.
So I waited a day and double texted her "And the best texter award goes to..." and she double texted me "Haha sorry" - "So how long you live here?" And I replied with "I just moved here 2 months ago for work, so I will be here for a long time" but now she didn't even read/respond to this message.
Now 2 days later, I want to try to revive the convo only because she's a hottie, so i really have nothing to lose for trying. Have you ever got girls out who acted like this? They seem interested and ask you a question but ghost you? What's a good way to turn it around from here. Do you ever triple text or is this like a social cue that if she's not responding, 3 texts deep is already like the danger zone so do you just leave it and ghost her to see if she replies and if she doesn't take the L?
First of all, I would stop making it a habit of calling them low investment girls. It's almost like excuse making. If they matched with Brad Pitt, would they be low investment girls? No. Second, you don't need to match their investment. You start with low investment. With very little DHV. No sexualization. Nothing. Just blindly matching investment with these girls will usually not get you anywhere. You have to first bring them in. Get them hooked. Get them to invest. Simply not saying much isn't going to all of a sudden push her to chase you.
Yes, it can happen with low investment girls. However, the odds are lower and it almost always requires more persistence and patience. Check out the following love reports of mine for step by step examples:
https://www.playingfire.com/incredibly-busty-milf-six-months-of-persistence-epic-lay-report/
https://www.playingfire.com/flaky-bubble-butt-latina-tinder-lay-full-text-game-breakdown/
https://www.playingfire.com/hot-18-year-old-tinder-lr-ridiculous-persistence/
That 18 year old report is prettty much exactly what I deal with on tinder. Like this one, a new match already giving 1 word responses lol
In sales, there are always people who walking to your shop but have zero intention of ever buying anything . In Tinder it is the same. Everyone encounters time wasters . There is no getting around that. However, you can have a profile that is so good that you don't even noticed the time wasters , because you have so many girls that are actually serious about meeting up with you.
So now you matched her investment. You pretty much offered nothing. And when you call her out for her lack of investment and she bites, you respond with "I just moved here 2 months ago for work, so I will be here for a long time" -- BORING! You were boring before. No value. You call her out, she gives you an opportunity because it was the most interesting thing you did in the interaction and perhaps she's just a patient, sweet girl. And you use that opportunity for something so boring that GETS YOU NOWHERE. It doesn't move the interaction anywhere and it requires her to work even more. Which you don't have enough compliance for that. You didn't DHV enough (I am assuming this).
So now you want her to give you ANOTHER chance. In which she knows you will likely just waste her time and bore her.
It's not her fault she's low investment. It is YOURS. So refrain from that kind of excuses/not taking responsibility mindset (just a good guess this may or may not be a typical thing; but it is rampant in this community).
So to answer your question what do you do to retrieve this interaction, for one, you need time. You may not want to wait a week or so to text her, but too bad. It's your fault.
Time doesn't cure all, but it helps heals the damaged you've done in the interaction.
I don't know much about the interaction or the girl specifically, but you need to find a way to grab her attention and something that she will want to reply to. And something that is more than a yes or no. But not something where she must work hard and comply to.
Memes can work, but I feel they must somehow relate her or you two. It has to have some kind of emotional impact. Otherwise you'll just get a "ha" and you'll be asking how to recover for a 4th time.
Perhaps try a voice memo? You can apologize for being so busy. But ultimately sound like a chill, cool dude. If you sound sane, funny or even sexy, she will def give you a chance and explore it more.
Let me know what you think!
Good catch, what would you have said to such a logical question like "How long have you lived here?" I wanted to tell her I just moved here 2 months ago for work, to create curiosity and bait her into asking me questions about it where I could use open loops. she asks "what do you do for work?" and i say "I can't tell you yet, maybe when i know you better" So I could make her guess and force her into not being judgemental, it really caught me by surprise since it's so early on in the interaction, and before this I was able to DHV based on her profile photo because its a pic of her in Prague and I have the exact same picture in the same spot when I traveled there so I sent it to her and she said "Cute" and she said she traveled there 2 years ago and asked when did I go there? and that's when she just kept on with the 1 word responses such as "Cool", "Really?" so what else could I have done to be sure I don't make the mistake of boring her? I'm gonna start doing more voice memo texts now once I convert the chat to Whatsapp.
I would have just said “2 months “ instead of The Who other sentence, sounds like your seeking for an answer from her = needy. If not wait 2 weeks for a third try but just dip, other Bomber girls out there, trust me.
I burn leads. Mostly, blow me or blow me out. I'm keen at spending time with volume rather than anyone particular girl especially if she has low interest. I have better experience with bumble than tinder. I have pulled college girls. Tons keep matches, no meet up, and its ego boost. Even their fat friends have matches bat way out of their league but won't meet up (likely know what will happen lol).
Similar to 3 casual hangs, if nothing takes, i cut the lead. She can hit me up or not. Bumble cuts threads for you lol
I hope it helps. Allocate your most precious asset (time) wisely. #next
