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When a girl gives you LMR on a wine date without any obvious cause, is it most likely related to your looks?
This is something I've been wondering about for a while since I definitely look 1-2 points better in my pictures than in real life. Almost always the excuse is something like "I'm just not feeling it right now". My game is intermediate level so I doubt it has anything to do with that either.
For example, today I had a wine date at my place where the girl was in an open relationship and admitted to wanting something casual, yet I was unable to close her even though we did makeout a couple times. Every time after around 5 minutes of making out she would give some excuse to stop. First it was that she doesn't usually move this fast and the second time it was that she just wasn't feeling it. Literally like 30 minutes after our date she sent me a message where she thanked me for the wine and good company but also said that she didn't want to meet me again. Considering that she was excited to come straight to my place and was explicitly looking for something casual I doubt she had any moral concerns that would cause her strong LMR. I'm able to close around 70% of my wine dates so thankfully this doesn't happen too often but it still definitely bothers me. What do you guys think?
Woman here. It is very difficult to say since I don't know what conversation you had or what you said to her. Why do you think it is your looks? When you first saw her what was her facial expression or reaction? If it at first meeting you in the first seconds you saw a negative body language or negative facial reaction then yeah maybe it could be that she thought you were a catfish. Again, no idea because I don't know what your pictures look like and what you actually look like. I personally never really think about the pictures vs real life unless there is a big difference and even then I always like to give people a chance and go through with it to see if we click. Other possibility might be that she had high expectations and possibly something you said or the way you carried yourself was not up to par with what she thought it would be, thus she became uninterested because she saw it as "low value." Another possibility is that she is just fucking weird. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, so don't even think about it. You aren't going to be everyones cup of tea, so just focus on the 70% of girls that are actually interested in you, which is the mayority!
No man, it could be any number of things. It could definitely be your game. Could be a mismatch in personalities. Cold feet. OR her being apprehensive in general. Myriad of possibilities
Hard to know exactly why she did that. Would dig deeper into objections/concerns in the moment in person. Since you think it's your looks, has a girl ever mentioned anything about you looking different in person? Do you think there's a significant difference between you in real life and in the pictures? Usually if you have a great personality and a great date the girl will just overlook the small details
