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Hey guys,
I have a question about building a rotation and my mindset around it.
This is my first post here, so I would like to first thank Alex. Your content has helped me step up my game big time. I have a lot of room for improvement still, but I am already able get dates and lays more consistently now.
This brings me to a new challenge I am facing.
I am currently seeing two girls regularly (both about once a week) and have a great time with them when they are here. They are attractive and I have a genuine connection with them, so I would like to keep seeing them. But the problem is that I am starting to feel guilty about it.
Firstly because of the fact that I am dating/sleeping with multiple women at the same time (this might be some sort of social conditioning that I need to get rid of). It is mainly because I know they are not dating other guys. It made me stop setting up dates with new girls until I figure out my mindset around this first.
And secondly is that I worry about giving off too much of a boyfriend vibe and that I give them false hope. I don't want to hurt their feelings later on, because I gave off the wrong impression or something. I want to keep seeing them, but I don't want a relationship.
I have watched the PWF Youtube video on rotations and I try to apply those lessons, but I still struggle with my mindset.
Maybe I'm overthinking this big time haha.
So I was wondering how you guys are dealing with this? Or in other words, what is your approach/mindset, so you don't feel guilty about having a rotation?
Thanks!
glad your enjoying the content man, as long as you are not explicitly promising the girls exclusivity and are not lying to them then you have nothing to worry about from an ethical perspective, theres nothing wrong with a man fucking multiple girls as long as hes not lying, vast majority of men commit to one girl but then wound up cheating "liying" becuaase they didnt have the balls to be straight up in the first place. So by doing what your doing your actually one of the better guys that she has met. Hope that helps man
It’s completely normal to feel that way about seeing multiple women at the same time. I too got over it with time and being as honest as I can about what I am looking for. Also, I hate to generalize, but the fact of the matter is 99% of women you meet are with multiple guys. Whether that be fucking them, dating, casual hangout groups, socials flirting, etc. No matter how many times they say it, you’re not the only guy they’re entertaining. You are now a high value guy and have to understand you are wanted by women. Focus on the bigger picture and how this skill will help you grow as a better high value man as you go along your journey. Keep pushing brotha! You’re doing great! 😎
Just don't lie. I've developed little speeches around how I address the fact that I'm seeing other people, and I've learned to not be too boyfriend-y, but the thing that would always get me is if I was not being honest. Is it possible you're not at a place where you want a rotation?
Thanks for the feedback!
No I don't want to lie. I'm just not sure what to say and if/when I should bring it up.
Can I ask what you say when a girl brings it up? And if a girl doesn't bring it up, do you assume she knows and is ok with it. Or do you feel like you have to bring it up yourself at some point? Or does being honest mean that I should bring it up?
I would like to have a rotation. I just don't know yet how to make sure they are on the same page. I guess my feeling/worry is that we are not on the same page now and that is making me feel guilty. If that makes sense.
