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This is one of the questions that I get from guys most often. Once you understand how attraction game works and can generate compliance from girls, you will want to know how to get them out of the club or bar to your place.
On bootcamps I go through this topic in excruciating detail, but I'll do an overview here.
The first concept to know is called a compliance ladder. The theory of compliance ladders says that every time a person says "yes" to a small question, they are more likely to say "yes" to an increasingly demanding question the next time.
What does that mean in game? It means that you need to generate enough compliance to pull her to the bar first. Then she needs to be willing to leave her friends. Then she needs to be willing to walk outside with you. Then into the car. Then into your apartment...
The second concept to know is plausible deniability. There are only really 3 things preventing a girl from sleeping with you- 1. She is not attracted enough; 2. She is afraid that her friends will judge her and call her a slut; 3. She is afraid for her safety.
We deal with (1) by running solid attraction game. We deal with (2) by giving her plausible deniability- keeping our intentions slightly ambiguous, so she's not really sure if the night will end in sex. We deal with (3) by making her feel comfortable, and there additional techniques to address safety objections...
Common mistakes that guys make with pulling are:
Being afraid to mess up a good interaction: things are going well with the girl, and he doesn't want to mess it up, so he doesn't make bold moves like going for the pull. This is where abundance comes in. A guy who is already pulling 3 new girls a week doesn't really give a fuck about losing any one specific girl. He will take the risk and go for the pull. Because guess what? If she doesn't comply, then you most likely would have never banged her anyway. See my last article "FUCK COMFORT: HIGH RISK = HIGH REWARD"
Making her feel like a slut: when guys say things like "let's go to my place" it makes her feel slutty. No matter how much she likes you, the fear of being labeled a "whore" by her friends will overpower that attraction. Sexual intent must remain ambiguous for as long as possible...
Stopping at too many intermediate locations: intermediate locations can be good to build attraction, compliance, and comfort. But many times these stops are not necessary, and they can actually send the interaction in a downwards spiral. She might get bored, or she might realize that she just left the club with some random guy and decide to go back to her friends. A big part of bootcamp programs is developing emotional acuity- the ability to read a girl's emotional state state and decide whether things like stops at intermediate locations would help or hurt the pull...
During bootcamp I do a 2 hour long lecture on pulling and run guys through lots of drills before they go out to the club and try it. Once you learn attraction game, pulling is one of the most important tactics to learn.
Jason James
Executive Coach, LuxLife Pickup
Www.LuxLifePickup.com
JasonJamesPickupCoach@gmail.com
Solid info, thanks for posting man!
