Overcoming bad logistics pt2 - Mindset & Presence

I've been figuring out how to close with my current conditions (not in city center, no car, large living distance between me and a girl), My current strategy is to screen for girls who live alone, and are receptive to suggestive flirty messages. I ended up in a situation where I was able to frame the messaging to be more flirty/sexual instead of the formal date approach I used to do before this content. We decided to meet at a bar by her place (she lives alone) given my shitty logistics make having a girl meet me impossible. It's not in the guide, but if it were it would be called Shitty Logistics Plan C.

When I got to the bar, she made out with me at first sight and I was taken aback because girls I date never do this, and most advice suggest to slowly escalate from eyes -> shoulders -> knees -> others, etc. I didn't recalibrate properly and floundered through most of the interaction while we were there. She led the conversation, bought the drinks, shit tested me a lot, noticed I was physically escalating/deescalating in confusion, and called me out on several occasions. We made out a bunch but there could have been more. By not adapting and continuing to follow a formula that wasn't right for the situation, I was thoroughly trounced by her control of the meet.

Here's what I've learned so far:

• Framing during the texting is absolutely everything. It's what led to the meet being like this without realizing. Once the frame has been established, understand and stay there. If you've escalated all the way in the text, then do not go into date mode when you meet her.
• By going to her area, you put yourself at a disadvantage because chances are she's setting everything up and it puts you in less control
• What you offer women both young and old is no matter how much more experience they have, is control. They can have all experience in the world, but they still have the same desires.

In short, I definitely need more experience keeping track/gaining control of leading under these logistics, and I'm terrible at reading non-verbal cues. What else can help this type of situation?