Always go for the meetup at your place first. Ask her for wine. You will have a higher probability of closing at your place, therefore, keeping retention with the girl. I've never not closed back at my place and the more girls that you have over the more comfortable you will be having newer hotter ones over. If your looking for something more serious only ask girls on dates that you can see yourself actually dating from a looks standpoint; personality is determined on the date. Never tell a girl you want to date her though, come from the frame that you are keeping things casual and if the right thing comes around you'll be ready to settle down. Make her do all the pursuing and question asking about where you are in the relationship. Girls are very emotional and once they find a guy they really like they never stop thinking about him. Girls like dating one guy at a time. So come form a frame of abundance and let her ask "what are we" "where is this going" etc... Slowly ease into the idea of dating her. The second she asks for a relationship don't just jump onto it. Us men need to be the prize and you need to let her know. Say "I like to take things slow" "I wanna see where things go" "I don't like to jump into a things" Be careful with how slow you go though. Some girls will become frustrated and just leave and ghost you if you arent giving them what they want. But overall this is the approach I take and it seems to work great if you want a serious relationship with a chick.