I've discovered a state of "purgatory" during the chat, where i become lost for words. After the start and before the date, and become weary of losing the good connection.

The chat starts with a lot of great stuff back and forth, flirting and info exchange, sexualizing and pulling back. It goes for days. But once i reach that point of suggesting the meet up, and even though it's going well, it's as if we can no longer chat back and forth in a fun way like previously.

Everything after that point seems to be logistics and seeing when is the best day, time, place. And in doing so, the "relationship" falls flat. It's lost the previous fun and it feels like a state of purgatory where it's after we met and laughed with each other, but before we've gone to heaven (the date).

Is this just me or are you guys experiencing it as well? any suggestions or criticisms are welcome.

joe bee